Traveling with Friends

posted 4 months ago in Travel
  • poll: Would you travel internationally with your friends without your spouse
    Yes : (26 votes)
    57 %
    No : (10 votes)
    22 %
    It depends : (10 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 2
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    1056 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    I’d go for it. I travelled all over the world by myself before we met, so I’m a pretty confident traveller. And it’s only a week. If it was somewhere i wanted to go, no problem.

    The only thing that would make me hesitant is if Darling Husband wanted to come too, but couldn’t for some reason. If he wanted to go to X but couldn’t at this point, and I could only visit X once, I’d probably wait and go with him unless it was a friend’s big event.

    Post # 3
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    2754 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I think I would feel way too guilty spending all of that money to go off and have a great time leaving Darling Husband at home. Me taking a vacation with friends would probably mean that we couldn’t afford to take a second one together. So I voted no. 

    Post # 4
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    2655 posts
    Sugar bee

    I voted yes, but it would depend on a bunch of things.  Does he have any desire to go to that location?  Would it be using too much vacation time that I wouldn’t be able to go on another vacation with him?  

    I can see this happening at some point and I can see him traveling as well without me.  

    Post # 5
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    2917 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    Agree with PP, depends on a lot of different things. I do girls trips all the time and have no issue traveling without my husband but if it were overseas and going to cost thousands of dollars, as our last overseas trip did, I would really have to think about it.

    im in the US, I would totally do Mexico without my husband  because it’s not super expensive but I would have to weigh the pros and cons to say, go to France without him.

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    Post # 6
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    14939 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I wouldn’t because he loves to travel too and there’s no reason he wouldn’t be able to go.  Unless it were a place he didn’t care to go, I would want to experience it with him too.  I would travel without him, domestically cause those arent as big a deal to us… like a girls trip to Sedona that we did last year, but that not for a week either.  At this point, we like a weekend get away without spouse/family.  But a week of vacation, I want to experience a place worth going to for a week with our spouse and kids too… and my friends are of the same mindset so it doesnt come up.  Like this year, we’re going to Bermuda, but instead of a girls trip, we’re making it a families trip.

    Short answer, a week away without spouse or family – no.

    Post # 7
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    199 posts
    Blushing bee

    I do a girls trip pretty much every year. It’s almost always 4 days, but I wouldn’t think a week is too much of a difference. My husband and I are our own people and need our own space. We are definitely not that couple that can’t be separated for a night. Now, if finances are an issue, that’s a separate issue.

    Post # 8
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    5534 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2018

    Yes, just because I’m married doesn’t mean I can’t do things alone. 

    Post # 9
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    400 posts
    Helper bee

    I would love to do something like this, I think traveling with friends is a fantastic idea but whether it can be done related to what stage you are at in your married/family life and how finances factor in.

    As a newly married, hubby and I travelled everywhere together, it is obviously a bonding time for a married couple. 

    Now I have a 7 year old and wouldnt want to leave her yet for a week long vacation (not saying it cant be done its just my personal choice) and so we travel every year together as a family, they have a great time and I know its the kind of memories they will cherish as they get older, and as I already do with them now.

    I know someone who is married 20 plus years, and she has for the last few years, gone on vacations with her gfs to inexpensive beach destinations, booking way in advance and sharing costs. To hear her talk, it seems the destination is secondary to the experience of travel itself, disconnecting from your everyday life to be with close friends for a few days. 

    I’ve been discussing this with my own best friend and if things pan out financially we definitely plan to do this. If someone has done this, I’d love tips and ideas from your own experiences as to what worked and what didnt. As time goes on and the years go by, you get further away from the 20 something you used to be, and spending time with friends is a great way to reconnect with you.

    Post # 10
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    1276 posts
    Bumble bee

    So many factors. Will this take you entire vocation budget? Does he want to travel?  Does he have friends to travel with?  Will this take your whole PTO etc.

    Marriage itself wouldn’t stop me.

    Post # 11
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    3436 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    Absolutely. We travel together at least twice a year, so if my friend invited me for a week away I’d definitely go for it! We don’t need to do everything together all the time. We also have our own accounts along with our joint accounts so any trip I took without him would come from my money and not our money, so that wouldn’t be an issue either. 

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I went to Vietnam earlier this year with my best friend for three weeks while my husband stayed home and I spent a week on my own in Bali as well. He is going on a snowboarding trip to Canada with his best mate and his brother in January. Just because we are married doesn’t mean we have to do certain things only with each other.

     

    Post # 13
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    1027 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    If you were traveling with friends/family before solo I don’t know why that would suddenly have to change after you are married? Especially since now a days most couples live together before marriage so I’m assuming things don’t change that much?

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