Post # 16
Yeah, this would be a hard pass for me. I’m currently 6 months pregnant, and I have precisely zero intention to attempt to travel with this baby until at least 6 months in. First and foremost because 6 months is when a lot of the shots are done (yes, they get their first round at 2 months, but a few are in a series that doesn’t confer full immunity until 6 months).
And aside from that, there are so many unknowns. You don’t know how you’re going to feel, physically and emotionally. You don’t know how the baby is going to be adjusting at that point. There’s so much that could make this trip unworkable.
I know some people don’t worry about the vaccines part of this at all, and some people seeing flying cross country with a 2 month old as NBD, but…. you are 100% in reasonable territory to just say no.
When I got married my brother and SIL had a 3 month old. My brother came up for the wedding, but my SIL and neice stayed home. I would have loved for them to be there, but I understood (and we didn’t want to postpone the wedding into the winter time when neice would have been older).
Post # 17
2 month old, I’d fly for sure. Especially if you’ve got some spare hands to help out at the wedding. I had a c section with both kids and we flew this summer when my second was 2 months. I felt fine, she traveled well, no big deal (bring a boppy for the flight, ours conked out in the first 10 minutes and even at 2 mos she was HEAVY after an hour- the pillow saved my arms). I’m sure your friend will understand if you’re breastfeeding- you can always pump or have your sister meet you periodically to feed the baby. I also flew with my pump (work related) and breastmilk – which was less of a hassle than I thought it would be. You’ll do great! Congratulations!
Post # 18
My nephew was born April 1 and they flew from Australia to Toronto in July. I’d fly not drive and I’ve heard it’s easier with younger babies vs. Older babies.
Post # 19
If you go I’d say fly for sure. It will be quicker and less stressful for you.
some women have a great time recovery wise. I have a friend who went to a wedding 5 hours away 3 weeks after a very emergency c section (general anesthetic, life or death situation) she was fine and was cleared to drive at that point – she is a champion dressage rider though and has abs of steel.
for me (not a horse ride with abs of flab) 2 months pp there is no way I’d have gone. I just was not ready to travel that far. Planning all the kit we’d need, i EBF so was still getting used to feeding in public and I had made little headway into the baby weight, my body image was terrible and no way would I have wanted to be in a bridal party.
We had been invited to a wedding in Australia which would have been when baby was about 3 months we declined straight away because I knew I couldn’t cope with booking flights, sorting a passport and visa for baby at that age.
Promise nothing to these friends and wait till baby is here to decide.
Post # 20
TheGridMonster : ha! It’s definitely not easy but I will say it is WAY easier than once they are mobile. We booked flights and decided to save $ and fly our then-16 month old as a lap baby just like we had done when she was 4-months old. She wasn’t walking when we booked them. We regretted everything lol. We survived the way down and luckily had an empty seat between us on the way back and the difference between those flights…..I will never have a lap baby over 1 year old again!
Post # 21
Thank you all SO much for the responses! I must say, I’m surprised at how many people would fly/have flown with such young babies! The thought of flying my two month old to the wedding never even crossed my mind. I think most of you are right – I’ll just need to take a “wait and see” approach and hope my friends are okay with that. It’s definitely reassuring that so many of you flew after two months, but I’m not totally confident that I could do that without being a total basket case!
Post # 22
I am currently pregnant with my first child and I would not attend/travel with the baby when they are that young. Many people do it and they make it sound like a breeze but it just looks overwhelming to me. Perhaps you can book refundable flights/hotels and see how the baby is when they are a month old?