Post # 1
- Wedding: December 2017 - Friendship Plaza
So, I want to come up with treats/rewards that will get better the *longer* the wait! That way, the longer it takes, at least I have *this* to look forward to, and it gets shinier the longer the proposal is withheld.
Right now I’m #62 on the Waiting List. There’s a high possibility he may be saving it for my 40th birthday… buuuut, I have anticipated before because *I* wanted it then and thought it would be a fantastic time. It’s right around the corner (beginning of May), so if it’s then or I’m in the 60s, I’ll just plan a nice manicure.
But what kinds of ideas for the others? If I make it to the 50s? 40s? 30s? It can’t be things I would normally do (I almost always do my own nails, except for pedicures, so that’s why a fancy mani is good).
I was thinking of an expensive massage for the 40s, and maybe resetting a stone into a RHR for the 30s. I need something pretty good but not awesome for the 50s, and something really amazing for the 20s. .. And the teens, and the ones.. oh god, I don’t want to be a #4, but maybe I do if someone has an epic idea?? HA!
I know it’s hard when you don’t know someone, so just tell me what YOU would do!
Post # 2
thessely: I would get a charmed aroma candle! They have gorgeous in the meantime rings in them hahaha
Post # 3
Here are my suggestions! No idea what order they should go in, and they may not be your sort of thing, but it’s such a fun idea! I may have gone a little extravagant here…
– A beautiful piece of jewellery
– A day out at the spa
– A pair of shoes/handbag from your favourite designer
– A relaxing facial
– Bump yourself up to first class on a trip
– A bouquet of flowers for every week you stay in that ‘decade’
– A fancy afternoon tea
– A night at the theatre/a show
– A weekend trip to a city you’ve always wanted to visit
Post # 4
This is a great idea! I saw it and asked my friend (who will be one of my bridesmaids) to go get our nails done! LOVE IT!
Post # 5
Omg this is a great idea!! Gonna have to figure out something like this for myself!
Post # 6
Ooh I love this idea! I wish I could do this but I’m already at #12 and never seem to move anymore haha!
Post # 7
I like this idea! Especially flowers for each time you move up a ‘decade’ or for each week you stay there (if you’re low on the list, maybe up to 20/30!) but I moved up 7 spaces this week so maybe next week I’ll have to owe myself something 😉
Post # 8
So the idea is to make yourself feel better about waiting for years for your bf to decide if he really wants you by buying something? I don’t think it will work in the long run; things are a poor substitute for emotional needs.
Post # 9
[content moderated for criticizing others’ choices/snark]
Post # 10
Yes, people are entitled to treat themselves. No explanation needed.
You’re also being rather presumptious. Do you know their situation? Do you know why he hasn’t proposed yet? Who says he hasn’t decided yet or isn’t ready yet?
She’s not asking for anyone’s judgment, she’s asking for ideas.
Post # 11
I bought myself a fancy necklace to wear every day while I was a waiting gal. To this day, my fiance has no idea why I was so upset when I lost that necklace. 🙁
Post # 12
doberman: lh526: Wow, you guys are a bundle of laughs. It’s a fun little game that encourages you to treat yourself once in a while, not an ’emotional substitute’ or some shit. Didn’t you ever buy yourself a gift just because?
Also, don’t be so goddamn judgemental. You’re going to tell every bee on that Waiting list (or ones who got married after long engagements) that their boyfriends didn’t really want them? Get off your high horse.
Post # 13
thatweddinggirl: A) There’s a difference between judgement and observation. B) The OP has made several posts about her situation. I’m addressing the OP and her situation.
avalynzafira: The whole purpose of being on the “waiting list” is waiting until your bf is ready, is it not? It is in the OP’s case. You’re the one making generalizations about “every bee”.
Post # 14
doberman: I don’t think it will work in the long run; things are a poor substitute for emotional needs.
I agree. I feel like it could backfire, even. I’m picturing OP with her I-moved-up-on-the-waiting-list manicure “treat” staring down in misery at a ringless hand. But maybe I just don’t get it. I don’t understand the point of this whole “waiting list” thing anyway. That in itself seems to me to be a recipe for rumination and misery.
Post # 15
Moving up the waiting list are #goals?
That’s weird. Most people would be getting “treats” for self-improvement type of things like eating healthier, being more calm, stopping a vice (smoking), or even for getting your certifications/graduating.
But what do I know? I seem to be losing touch with societal norms lately.