(Closed) "Treat" ideas for Waiting, help me think of some?

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Busy bee

thessely:  I would get a charmed aroma candle! They have gorgeous in the meantime rings in them hahaha

Post # 3
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Helper bee

Here are my suggestions! No idea what order they should go in, and they may not be your sort of thing, but it’s such a fun idea! I may have gone a little extravagant here…

– A beautiful piece of jewellery 

– A day out at the spa 

– A pair of shoes/handbag from your favourite designer 

– A relaxing facial 

– Bump yourself up to first class on a trip 

– A bouquet of flowers for every week you stay in that ‘decade’ 

– A fancy afternoon tea 

– A night at the theatre/a show 

– A weekend trip to a city you’ve always wanted to visit 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

This is a great idea! I saw it and asked my friend (who will be one of my bridesmaids) to go get our nails done! LOVE IT!

Post # 5
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Newbee

Omg this is a great idea!! Gonna have to figure out something like this for myself! 

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Ooh I love this idea! I wish I could do this but I’m already at #12 and never seem to move anymore haha!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

I like this idea! Especially flowers for each time you move up a ‘decade’ or for each week you stay there (if you’re low on the list, maybe up to 20/30!) but I moved up 7 spaces this week so maybe next week I’ll have to owe myself something 😉

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

So the idea is to make yourself feel better about waiting for years for your bf to decide if he really wants you by buying something? I don’t think it will work in the long run; things are a poor substitute for emotional needs. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

[content moderated for criticizing others’ choices/snark]

Post # 10
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Worker bee

Yes, people are entitled to treat themselves. No explanation needed.

You’re also being rather presumptious. Do you know their situation? Do you know why he hasn’t proposed yet? Who says he hasn’t decided yet or isn’t ready yet?

She’s not asking for anyone’s judgment, she’s asking for ideas.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I bought myself a fancy necklace to wear every day while I was a waiting gal. To this day, my fiance has no idea why I was so upset when I lost that necklace. 🙁

Post # 12
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Helper bee

doberman:  lh526:  Wow, you guys are a bundle of laughs. It’s a fun little game that encourages you to treat yourself once in a while, not an ’emotional substitute’ or some shit. Didn’t you ever buy yourself a gift just because?

Also, don’t be so goddamn judgemental. You’re going to tell every bee on that Waiting list (or ones who got married after long engagements) that their boyfriends didn’t really want them? Get off your high horse. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

thatweddinggirl:  A) There’s a difference between judgement and observation. B) The OP has made several posts about her situation. I’m addressing the OP and her situation. 

avalynzafira: The whole purpose of being on the “waiting list” is waiting until your bf is ready, is it not? It is in the OP’s case. You’re the one making generalizations about “every bee”.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

doberman:  I don’t think it will work in the long run; things are a poor substitute for emotional needs.

I agree. I feel like it could backfire, even. I’m picturing OP with her I-moved-up-on-the-waiting-list manicure “treat” staring down in misery at a ringless hand. But maybe I just don’t get it. I don’t understand the point of this whole “waiting list” thing anyway. That in itself seems to me to be a recipe for rumination and misery. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

Moving up the waiting list are #goals?

That’s weird.  Most people would be getting “treats” for self-improvement type of things like eating healthier, being more calm, stopping a vice (smoking), or even for getting your certifications/graduating.

But what do I know?  I seem to be losing touch with societal norms lately. 

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