Post # 1
We are getting married in Indiana, but we live in California. Can I say on our Wedding Website, in the Registries section, that we would prefer gifts be sent to us instead of brought to the wedding? (We just don’t want to ship them all back to California!)
I put my address on there for them to send to and said thanks for understanding…is that tacky/rude/etc? Thoughts please, thank you!!
Post # 3
First of all, if you register online somewhere, everyone who buys from the website will be able to send the gifts directly to you. But second, I really don’t think you can ask guests to mail your gifts instead of bringing them to the wedding. Then the cost is on them when it’s perfectly acceptable to bring a gift to the wedding. I am getting married in Massachusetts and live in Maryland and I will be shipping any gifts back to Maryland.
Post # 4
I think this is the sort of thing that would best be spread through word of mouth by someone other than you. It’s one of those etiquette things about how you can’t specify how/what gifts people should give you. I completely understand where you’re coming from, as we are also getting married far away and would prefer NOT to have to pay zillions to ship things back if we can help it! Just ask your parents to put the word out as a suggestion as opposed to a “bride wants people to do XYZ” and you shouldn’t ruffle any feathers.
Post # 5
Try to fly Southwest- I am getting married in Boston in June, and live in Chicago. Most people shipped to my house, but at the shower, people brought physical gifts so I’d have somthing to open. Two bags fly free at Southwest, so I boxed up everything and brought it back. Its not easy to carry everything, but worth it 🙂
Post # 6
It doesn’t bother me in the slightest; however, it probably depends on your crowd and you may not know their reaction. If you worded it nicely, most people I know would think, “oh, yah, never would have thought about that without the reminder” or similar.
Post # 7
Darling Husband added something to our website on the honeymoon page saying “we are leaving directly from LA for our honeymoon”. I don’t know, it may have been too subtle. But we only had three people bring gifts out of just over 100 (others either shipped, or brought/sent checks).
Do a lot of your guests live near where you’re having the wedding? If so, you’ll definitely want to enlist some help in getting the word out to ship. I think it helped that a lot of our guests were out of town, only the LA folks brought stuff.