Tricky Guest List Etiquette Situation

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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681 posts
Busy bee

Invite Jane. It’s fine. 

Post # 3
Member
559 posts
Busy bee

Course you can just invite Jane. 

Post # 4
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647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Agreed. Invite Jane. She is YOUR friend. You have a friendship with Jane outside of the snooty Smiths. No need to invite snooty smiths. 

Post # 5
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1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

 if you feel so weird about inviting Jane and not the Smiths, you can always make her part of the bridal party, then she’s not “invited.”

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megm1099 :  

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You don’t have to invite friends of a guest, just the guest.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

You are totally over thinking this. You can just invite Jane. 

Post # 10
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192 posts
Blushing bee

Invite Jane, forget about the Smiths!

Post # 11
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Honey bee

They are independent adults.  Unless Jane is in a polyamorous relationship with the Smiths where they consider each other their significant others, they literally have nothing to do with each other with respect to being invited places.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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megm1099 :  that’s awful. I would try calling her. Could be a misunderstanding or The Smiths are telling lies about you. Call her and ask what’s going on. 

Post # 14
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7398 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Do you have her address? Maybe you can call her under the guise of making sure you have the correct address to send out your Save-The-Date Cards invites or wahtever. Then you can feign surprise when she thinks she isnt invited because of whatever the smiths said. You can clear up whatever they may have said and move on. 

 

Post # 15
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2736 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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megm1099 :  Just invite Jane, it doesn’t matter how you met her. If you don’t like the Smith’s, don’t feel obligated to invite them simply because they introduced you to a friend or you’ve known them for years.

ETA I read your update right after I commented, that is ridiculous. I’d try and get in touch with Jane and just straight up ask her what’s up, if your friends you should be able to have an adult convo about this.

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