Post # 1
I’m getting married in Feb, and I need to confirm my final numbers to my vendors.
I decided to invite my work team, we work in a large company, but only invited my small team of 5 with their partners out of the firm.
Everyone RSVP’ed yes.
However one employee has now left our workplace, and things didn’t go smoothly, he left a lot of bad files behind that my bosses had to fix for him, and there have been some heated conversations between them all (these bosses will be attending the wedding).
Now I feel really awkward about him and his wife attending my wedding and having to sit with my work team, there really isn’t anywhere else I could put them.
He had mentioned to me that he and his wife wouldn’t be staying at the wedding for too long as they have a 50th to go to, and a couple of friends who I have explained the situation too have suggested I message him and ask if he still wants to come given all the stuff that has unfolded.
But I feel really awkward and rude doing this.
What are your thoughts?
Post # 2
Find somewhere else to seat them or let them decide to bow out on their own initiative. There has to be somewhere you can put him besides the work table. How things ended at work shouldn’t impact whether you like them as humans or not. If you didn’t like him, you shouldn’t have invited him in the first place. If you did like him and he’s just a bum at work, that’s nothing to do with your wedding and he should be welcome. Or, if you hate him now because of how things went down at work, then you shouldn’t really care how rude it is to disinvite.
Post # 3
I would not disinvite them. I would seat them far from the other work people and assume they will keep their word and leave early.
Post # 4
This is one of the reasons why a lot of people discourage inviting coworkers who are not also friends out of the office. The answer to your dilemma is to rearrange your seating, not to uninvite them.
Unless the wedding is casual, I’d hope they are at least planning to stay for the meal. Otherwise it’s very rude. If it’s a formal seated dinner, I’d want to get an answer to that.
Post # 5
You can sit them at a table of people they don’t know. It sounds like all parties would appreciate it and have a better time that way.
Most of the people who came to my wedding didn’t know anyone else, so pretty much everyone was sitting with/near people they didn’t know. Everyone had a great time anyway. Don’t stress!
Post # 6
Yep, seat them elsewhere!
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
I would sit them at a table with people that they don’t know instead of having a table full of uncomfortable people sitting together.