(Closed) Tricky invite situation. What should I say? Help!!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Just send them a message and say he is invited and you are sorry if you didn’t clarify that in the invite. You were in hetic wedding planning mode. I am sure they will understand. That is IF you want him there. However, their response on your RSVP was a bit of a snub (IMO) that you did not invite him. Like a nasty nice response if that makes sense.

Post # 5
3028 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Pink Asawa:  It doesn’t sound to me like Chris feels like he is invited, just wants to send his regards.  I wouldn’t do anything here.

Post # 6
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would not invite Chris and I would judge them all favorably in assuming that Chris has nice intentions. You are not obligated to invite people you aren’t really friends with, and not everything needs to be dramatic because its a wedding. There is already enough stress involved in planning a wedding. 

Post # 7
540 posts
Busy bee

Yep I would do exactly what youre thinking of doing, well say something to him like,hey we got your parents rsvp,  darn we were hoping you’d be able to come too, do you have other plans that evening, because if you don’t,  please come. 

Post # 8
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Can you accomodate all the extra people if you DID invite all the siblings? I dont think you are obligated to invite them by any means, but you said you are social with them. Invite people that you want there to help you celebrate. If you have the room to invite them all, then invite them all. If you want to invite a select group then do that. If you want to only invite Chris and none of the other siblings, then go with that. But I also think sending well wishes does not neccessarily mean they are wishing they had been invited. They may just be happy for you.

Post # 9
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

If you want to invite him (which you don’t need to if you’re feeling obligated) then your plan is good. Just contact him and say he’s invited but you didn’t clarify on the invite. 

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