(Closed) Tricky Seating at Ceremony

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

im confused by the “rows” this  is for the ceremony? i wasnt planning on doing assigned seats for the ceremony.. prob just marking the first row as “reserved for family”

Post # 5
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

For your side I would sit as follows: Mom and step dad, maternal grandfater/wife, and step mom in the first row and dad/gf in the first seats of the second row. If there’s extra seats I’d fill with mom’s family in front row and dad’s family in second row if possible. If this doesnt work for you it’d be okay to go mom/step dad dad/gf and then step mom.

For FH’s side If you put your dad in the second row it’d be okay to do the same with his dad. If not I’d sit FI’s mom and then whoever else you can use as filler and then put Future Father-In-Law on the opposite end of the row.

But overall even though there’s hurt feelings I think most adults, especially parents of the bride and groom put their own feelings aside for a couple hours of the day in order to make things more comfortable for their children. Afterall this is your day- and apparently they’ve all had several of their own- and should know better than to do anything that would ruin things for you or Fiance.

Post # 6
1103 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think I’d worry about the actual seats, bc these are adults and can seat themselves. If you have ushers/others who will be helping people to their seats I would just let them know where you want the mothers, and let everyone else move around that. Unless you think there are people involved who would be upset if they didn’t have a specially reserved seat and/or would kick up a fuss if they ended up next to the wrong person? I can’t imagine anyone sensible doing that, it’s YOUR wedding and the ceremony doesn’t go for very long so surely they could suck it up 🙂

Post # 7
762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Don’t stress too much over it. Like other bees said, hopefully the adults can set aside their grudges for your wedding day!

Post # 8
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Don’t split up couples – even if a parent’s new significant other isn’t close to you or your Fiance, that person still needs to sit next to their date/current spouse. And as pps have said, don’t stress out about it too much, these are all adults who should be able to act mature and cordial for your wedding. But you and your FI know everyone best. If you think someone might be hurt, explain the situation before hand, and get everyone’s buy in. If it is any reassurance, my stepsister’s wedding had a similar mix of steps and exs on both sides, and everyone was on their best behavior with no hurt feelings 🙂

Post # 9
99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I would just reserve the rows, and let them figure out their seats when they get there. They’ll work it out.

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