Post # 1
Okay, okay. I admit I never thought I’d WANT to post anything on our website about money. But…. we’ve run into some problems.
FH and I registered at an all-inclusive site that incorporates stores like Macy’s, Bed Bath and Beyond, etc in one place. Great idea? Not so much. At least for our guest list.
We’ve had SO many people be confused about registering at different places that I’ve been rethinking our registry. I want to add a post to our website today stating a few things. Let me know if this sounds crazy or like a good idea.
” To those of you who’ve asked about our registry in particular, thank you for your interest. FH and I have registered here, here and here (fill in the blanks) but in lieu of gift ideas would really appreciate a money gift instead. We are not able to afford a honeymoon right now but would love one in the future. Also, bride to be (me) has been invited to go to LA for a talent showcase this upcoming summer that would help her in her career goals as a professional seeking film experience. Right now she is unable to attend due to a lack of funds to get her there or pay for her stay.
That being said, we would really appreciate any gifts you could offer us but would most definitly find a donation the most helpful to us as a couple right now. “
I’m a little antsy about posting something like this, but FH’s family has not and I believe will not offer to help with anything much less a honeymoon for us. I included the part about going to LA because that is a reality for me right now. As exciting as it is, I know my FH would want me to put most if not all of our gift money towards my career.
Let me know what you think or how you would phrase this!
Post # 3
there are ways to just open a “cash fund” on reg websites like “myregistry.com” you can name the fund something like “cash for career” or “honeymoon fund” and then maybe explain the situation short and sweet. like… we have all the little trinkets we need, if you feel so inclinded, please contribute to one of our funds!
then be sure to explain where your honeymoon is what you are planning to do yada yada… people want to know where their mulah is going
hope this helps
Post # 4
I agree with Jessoverall. My fiancé and I are thinking of doing something like this since we’re both in graduate school and honestly have everything for the house already (we’ve lived together for 2.5 years). But since we’re $120,000+ in debt from grad school, money would be awesome!
Hope this works out for you! I think a cash registry is the way to go.
Post # 5
I’m not all about the open statement asking for cash.
I would think the cash registry would be a better way to do it.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t mention that you are using this wedding gift to forward your career. A wedding gift is for both of the couple. I wouldn’t want to fund this, even if you later end up using it for this purpose.
I am against asking for cash in general. Guests who want to give cash will. And there will always be people who will be offended. Personally, I would never want to risk offending my loved ones for a little bit extra $. Cash is what a lot of people give as a wedding gift anyway.
Post # 7
@SimplyChic11: Hmm… I do not like the idea of asking for money regarding your career. People give money for you AND your fiance to start your new lives TOGETHER. Not for you to pursue a career. I think sometimes if you sign up for a honeymoon registry it can be turned into cash? You’ll have to research it, but I swear I read something like about that on a blog before.
Post # 8
I have a Honeyfund on our wedding website. They just mark down what they will send you and you get a check in the mail. A lot of people used part of it for their honeymoon and part to finish paying off the wedding… http://www.honeyfund.com/
This may be helpful to?
Post # 9
@HappilyEverAfter54: I agree–honeyfund sounds like the way to go in your situation. We’re using it for a true honeymoon registry, but in the end, you just get the money via Paypal.
Post # 10
Honeyfund +1 here. Why not just honeymoon in LA as well?
Post # 11
@MrsNeutrino: You’re a genius!