(Closed) Tried on over 20 dresses..still haven’t found the one..please help

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m sorry you are frusterated! 

I think both dresses are lovely and obviously have quality that you like/want so I suggest printing off pictures of both of them and taking those (along with magazine dresses/other online dresses that you like or like something about) and taking them with you to the bridal salons you go to. Ask for help! I did and the woman who was helping me went to the back closet and pulled out what turned out to be THE DRESS ๐Ÿ™‚

Good luck!

Post # 5
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - The 19th Century Club

Sadly (or happily, depending on your outlook!) you just have to keep on trying them on until it just hits you..trust me, you’ll know! I’d say I tried on about 30 and ended up with a dress that I didn’t even want to bring into the changing room with me because I was convinced I hated it. And fortunately, I had a consultant who pushed me and who was right ๐Ÿ™‚ Dress from models/magazines never look hte same as they do in real life, so just try on a lot and you’ll find it!

Post # 6
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

it sounds like you want a strapless dress with corseting down the back and details on the train. how about taking a break for a while (if your timeline works), then make a slew of appointments at the same, or different places, and go in with those specifics. if that’s what you want, make sure the dresses you try fit that criteria (tho i’m a firm believer of one wildcard at each dress store – ie one that you wouldn’t think of trying, but that the consultant/ your bms think is great).

Post # 8
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

You sound like me!  I am so frustrated with finding the dress. I have tried on several dresses but none of them had that “the right dress” feel and I think no one wants to go shopping with me anymore. lol

GL, may both of us find THE dress soon. ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 9
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I feel your pain…it is SO hard to find the perfect dress!!! I was just like you with little elements that I liked about different dresses. I think that with what you are looking for, it sounds like you may end up with a Maggie Sottero dress. Have you tried on the Sabelle? It reminded me of a combo of both of those dresses.

Keep trying on dresses…just think, this is the only time in your life when you get to try on multiple wedding gowns!!!

Post # 10
46 posts
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m not sure where you live, or what your budget is, but consider taking a road trip with a friend to out of town salons. It might make the shopping seem more fun again and the selection could vary quite a bit. If you’ve decided on the silhouette that best flatters you, that’s a big step in the right direction. It also makes it easier to shop online because you’ll know what would work and what wouldn’t. I love Maggie dresses, and a lot of salons carry discontinued dresses that aren’t on the website. So, it might be worth a trip.

Post # 11
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I also tried on over 100 dresses.  I finally started hitting paydirt when I started running online searches on every designer I could find.  I ran into Sophia Tolli’s dresses and knew that I could find something I loved in her collection…

Then I had to find outlets that carried her dresses in my area.  I was successful and found my dream dress ๐Ÿ™‚

Good luck and have fun!

Post # 12
2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Don’t get discouraged.  I can’t even tell you how many dresses I tried on other than a lot.  Hang in there and I second the wild card suggestion.  Out of my top 3 dresses, two of them were not ones I would have grabbed.  Let other people make suggestions and give them a shot even though you’re pretty sure you’d never get it.  Bring other random people instead of always bringing the same one or two.  Even if you’re not that close with them sometimes they can still be really useful.  Also, I personally don’t buy into that idea that you have to keep looking until you find THE DRESS.  I love my dress and I’m excited to wear it, do I think there are dresses out there that are more me?  I’m sure of it but it wasn’t worth searching to the ends of the earth to me.  You have to make that call for yourself too.  

Other than that, just keep looking.  You’ll find something you love.  Good luck!

Post # 13
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heinz Chapel Ceremony, Museum Reception

Oh, I must have tried on at least 40 dresses before I knew I found the one I wanted. And really, I think you WILL feel it when you are wearing “the one”–I didn’t necessarily believe it was true, especially after feeling so “eh” after 39 dresses, but that last one was all magic and sparkles!

Post # 14
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Don’t feel too frustrated!  I think everyone has good advice.  I tried on over 100 dresses myself, and I found something that I thought I looked good in, but the dress I ended up getting was one that I did not want to take off!  I never would have found it if I didn’t shy away from what I was originally looking for and tried on a few dresses that I never would have imagined I would haved liked!

As for dress suggestions–I’m not sure your price range, but Maggie Sottero has plenty of corset dresses, also Pronovias has a good mix of dresses as well.  Good luck!

Post # 15
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

when you try on the dress you just kind of know I cried with mine


you can also add stuff to it I am adding off the shoulder sleeves to my strapless gown to make it feel less naked since I’ll be married in a Catholic church


good luck


I think there will come  a point when you get sick of trying on things and you are forced to decide

Post # 16
36 posts
  • Wedding: June 2010

If you really like the second dress except for the embroidery part on the train you can easily go to a craft store like joann fabrics or hobby lobby and they have things just for veils and wedding dresses that can easily be sewed on to give your dress a little extra bling, so that is always an option to keep in mind.

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