(Closed) *Trigger Warning* Assaulted, may have STD how to tell new husband

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 76
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

jily:  Stop flogging a dead horse. None of your comments are helpful – im very sure from her first post that the OP feels bad enough about what happened with the drinking with the concussion that she doesn’t need you constantly bringing it up, accusing her of an alcohol problem and making it feel worse 

Shes already struggling with self blame and while your comments may be well intentioned I don’t think you’re thinking of the potential consequences of going on about her “drinking against doctors advice.” 

I bet she’d do anything to go back and chanhe things but she can’t so let it go.

Post # 77
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

MrsKing212:  you do realize that I’m continually dragged back into this discussion by people such as yourself who for whatever reason feel the need to hijack the OP original post and respond to my opinion. As I’ve said to other responders, I believe I’ve made my position clear. Please stop messaging me. Thanks!

Post # 80
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Annnnnon:  I am so so glad to read this. It sounds like you married an incredible man And you’re on the path to dealing with this. Feel free to message me if you want to talk about anything!

Post # 81
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Annnnnon:  I just read through this thread. You’ve gotten some good advice from other bees. Just wanted to say how sorry I am that this has happened to you. I hope for a full physical and emotional recovery. I am glad you were able to discuss this with your husband since you originally posted. I can imagine how hard that was but I’m happy he was so supportive. Be well. 

Post # 83
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262 posts
Helper bee

I’m so happy that your husband really stepped up and has made you feel warm and safe. Iv been thinking about you and I wish you all the strength you need in the coming days to get back to yourself again. Your husband sounds like a good man and I’m so glad you have each other. Bless you both xx 

Post # 84
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681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m so happy you opted to tell him and it sounds like you have married a great man.  Hopefully his support and understanding is helping you to find a road to recovery from it all.  Crossing my fingers that all comes back ok for you. 

Post # 85
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Blushing bee

Annnnnon:  It is incredible how much relief you can get by telling someone, especially a loved one that is supporting you the way your husband is. I’m so glad you are feeling better and are figuring out your next steps with your husband. It sucks feeling alone and again, am so happy you don’t feel that way anymore!

Stay strong, things may get worse before getting better. But with love and support you can get through this! 

Post # 86
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Annnnnon:  What an amazing update.  I’m so happy that you have your husband’s support.  Hoping for a full emotional and physical recovery for you.

Post # 87
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Annnnnon:  I’m sorry you didn’t find my advice helpful, I’m glad you were able to move forward with your husband in a positive way. Best wishes!

Post # 88
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

OMG, I am so relieved that you talked to him and he was as supportive as I had hoped he would be! Best wishes to you both! <3

Post # 89
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Annnnnon:  First, I am so sorry you were raped and are having to deal with this. No one deserves that violation and pain. Second, I am so glad to see your update that you were able to talk with your husband and get the support you need. Kudos to you for getting rid of the alcohol. I can’t imagine the difficulty in coping after such a traumatic event. Please know (though many other bees have said it) that you absolutely are not at fault. He chose to take advantage of you. He is the one at fault and only him. Please ignore any person who victim blames as that is their issue, not yours. I hope talking with husband and getting tested will help you get on the path to healing. Best wishes.

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Post # 90
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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jily:  I can’t believe you audacity  

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