(Closed) *Trigger Warning* Assaulted, may have STD how to tell new husband

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 106
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

jily:  I think your advice was pretty sound. As a victim of rape myself I saw nothing offensive in what you said. You addressed the fact that the alcohol issue should also be dealt with, sound advice no matter what the circumstance and even as someone who used a ton of substances to cope I see nothing bad about your advice on that issue. Also the STD advice, very sound. If it is a certain type, it needs to be dealt with differently than others. Suggesting treatment, sound advice. saying that drinking with a concussion was poor decision making, very logical. You were in no way saying that those things caused the rape, just that drinkig with a concussion isn’t the smartest choice in which it definitely is not. You even CLEARLY stated that she needs to not blame heRself. Did everyone just miss that part?! Gosh people just read what they want to see! 

Post # 107
85 posts
Worker bee

MrsA44:  Exactly how I felt, I was so suprised that few BEEs were super mean. I have been a longtime lurker but a new BEE, and have seen how some people get unbelieveable nasty. People need to find Jesus and not be so harsh. It’s a sad fact that Rape touches so many women but to turn on each other, when everyone is just trying to help…Lord help us

Post # 109
85 posts
Worker bee

Annnnnon:  I think you are taking things very personally. I have REPEATEDLY wished you only good things, but while you may not believe and I would never ask you too. My faith is between me and the LORD. Whatever you believe is fine, and I fully support your right to believe WHATEVER YOU WANT, but please don’t be disrespectful to my faith.

Post # 110
1261 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Annnnnon: You posted on a public forum, I don’t think you can exactly tell people “you aren’t allowed to mention that you follow a religion to me,” no matter how much you dislike religious people.

In any event, I’m so sorry for what happened to you, and I’m glad your husband is supportive (as well he should be). That piece of trash at your work belongs in prison, honestly. Of course he’s going to tell the woman he was caught actively assaulting that she consented, but he knows perfectly well that is not the case. Best of luck as you go forth and heal, and I am so glad talking to your husband also made you no longer have a dependence on alcohol.

Post # 111
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Annnnnon:  I just wanted to pop back in and say: you go girl!  Give your hubby a big, fat kiss for all of us who were hoping that he was just as awesome as he turned out to be on the subject.  You, my dear, are loved; don’t ever forget that.  Best wishes with your testing and continued progress back to a healthy, less stressed life.  Keep us posted because (a) we care and (b) because your story is probably helping others who are, right now, going through the same struggle.


I am so happy for you.  Your strength is incredible.  Keep going with your sweet self, and again, snuggle your man and keep loving each other!  You are on your way back to the awesome life you deserve.

Post # 112
46 posts

I am glad to hear that you are making progress.  Keep it up 🙂

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