(Closed) Triple Feeding: stick it out?

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Post # 31
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Bumble bee
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@bear123:  Yikes — 3 hours?  Your poor babe.  She probably was hungry!  That’s way too long for some newborns to go without feeding.  No wonder she was giving you hunger cues.  Glad to hear you are nursing on demand now.  Hopefully, things will turn around for you soon.  

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee

After reading more of your updates and it sounds like the babe is only 3 weeks old?  It’s totally normal for her to want to latch all of the time to nurse, for comfort and to build your supply.  It won’t last forever.  I don’t want to go against medical advice but this just sounds like normal baby nursing behavior.  Eating and then wanting to latch again while rocking doesn’t mean you are doing anything wrong, babies are just like that.  

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee

Adding, the first few weeks my babe wanted to latch/nurse for two hours every night.  We’re down to more like 30-40 minutes now at almost 4 months.  Don’t be discouraged if she wants to feed again right after feeding, it may just be a comfort thing but it will also help your supply.  

Post # 34
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@bear123:  hey there, I just wanted to say you’re doing a great job; feeding issues can be so stressful and I feel like you have a good outlook and attitude towards it all. Our second born had a terrible start to breastfeeding due to a tongue tie and I was a wreck.
Just wanted to chime in on the timing of your feeds- I think that the 3 hour between feedings should be the longest your LO should go between feeds and that should only be if she’s not giving cues before than. You don’t need to wait for 3 hours before feeding her again. I agree with the LC that recommended on demand feeding even if it feels like she’s on you for long time or seems like she’s eating too often. That should help Sync your supply with your babe’s needs and get her gaining weight. 
That being said, there is absolutely nothing wrong with supplementing with expressed milk or formula. Also, if you get to a point where it’s all too much, exclusively pumping or strictly formula feeding are fantastic and healthy options too. I know it can be disappointing if you wanted to BF but it didn’t work out, just know that you’re doing everything you can for this babe and that is more than enough ❤️. 

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee

My experience nursing my daughter in the first month of life was that she would often cluster feed for literally 8-9 hours at a time. Like she’d nurse for 45 minutes and then 20 min later show hunger cues so I’d put her back on the breast and she nurse another 45 min, again and again for hours. It was insanity. I’m sure if I had offered a bottle instead of my breast she would have downed many ounces from it and it would have made me paranoid she wasn’t getting much from the breast. But she was getting enough. that’s what baby’s do in those critical first few weeks to help get your supply in. … they want to nurse constantly!

have you done more than one weighted feed? Maybe try that again and see if you get a better result. The triple feeding thing sounds completely unsustainable… you’re a warrior for doing it as long as you have! I think I’d either commit to trying for full time nursing (taking pp’s advice to just park yourself in front of Netflix wirh your baby on your boob for a weekend and let her feed completely on demand) or full time pumping (or formula!) but this triple feed round the clock thing would not work for me from either a mental or physical health perspective! I’m sorry your pediatrician just flippantly told you to do that for six more weeks… it’s frustrating how little support mothers get in the postpartum period. 

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
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@bear123:

  I mean this gently and politely, but are you sure they didn’t mean every three hours maximum (like wake to feed if she’s sleeping) – BUT more often if you are getting hunger cues? Cluster feeding (feeding on and off nearly constantly at times) is completely standard in babies that are 1-3 weeks old. I’m also surprised a doctor, let alone multiple, would tell you to wait 3 hours between feeds.

I think it’s definitely wise to feed on demand now like you’re doing, and also just pump/feed at times rather than triple feed. Can you pump some extra and keep it in the fridge so it’s ready right away when she’s hungry? I EPed for a year and kept milk in a big Mason jar with lid, then froze whatever was left every 24-36 hours. Hang in there, this stuff is tough! ❤️

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@bear123:  my guess is every three hours was working cause she was getting both boob and bottle in that time. If she was just getting boob she’d probably want to nurse more often. I’m glad you’re working with a LC… I’ve found most pediatricians really don’t know a lot about breastfeeding and the advice can be pretty “old school” (ie telling new moms to feed newborns on a schedule rather than on demand).

Also some babies are just more efficient on the breast than others. Maybe your baby isn’t that efficient on the breast and pumping will end up working better for you guys. Or maybe you’ll decide to formula feed. All of those options are perfectly 💯! You got this. 

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@bear123:  I’m typing as i nurse, haha!  30-40 minutes for a nighttime comfort feed.  It may help your sanity to know feeds are usually only 10-20 minutes now.  The sucking action helps build supply.  It also is just comfort for baby.  Would I rather be downstairs prepping dinner, vacuuming, talking to my husband?  Yes … but I also have a 20 month old so I know this stage will fly by.  It will all be ok!  I don’t mean to guilt you or cause you strife, just trying to give you the support to know you aren’t failing breast feeding because baby wants to nurse all the time – that’s just how new babies are.

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
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@bear123:  As I’ve mentioned, I went through all of this with my little man. For more info, I found KellyMom.com to be a fabulous resource! It’s a little woo-ey on the “breast is best” stuff, but if you ignore that and use it for info on how / when / what gear etc to nurse, pump, etc – it’s really really helpful.

(Note that i do think breast is just slightly better, all things being equal, hence me EPing for a year – but formula is 100% the right and healthy and best decision for tons of babies!)

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