Post # 1
Hi everyone! I am completely desperate for help! We got engaged this March and are planning to get married in 2017. The trouble is, we are moving to Florida, our friends are in SC, and all of our family is in New York and New Jersey! I would’nt mind getting married in New York but I kind of have my heart set on a beach house wedding. Also, it would be complete hell to plan from Florida while finishing my degree in the next year or so. My fiance’s family is willing to travel to Florida but he is worried about his very frail (sp?) grandparents. And he does not want to do two ceremonies, which I agree with. Any suggestions? I really want to get married in Florida so it is easier to plan and more comfortable for us. I would rent out a beach house and it would be less than paying for a hotel for each person. Is it rude to ask everybody to travel? I feel so guilty but confused! AH!
Post # 2
People will have to travel no matter what you do. Plan it for Florida but keep in mind ease of transportation for those traveling. A close airport and hotel options for example
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
It’s not rude to ask people to travel, but you may find a few people decline because of it. We live a 3-hour flight from my home town (where most of my family is) and I had two uncles (and their wives) decline due to the travel. Also my grandmother was unable to travel, which I was sad about but I always knew that was a possibility. On the flip side, DH’s grandfather was able to be at our wedding (wouldn’t have been if we got married in my home town), which has been made even more special as he passed away a month ago.
Post # 4
I live in Texas, his family is in NY and NC and mme is in CA and CT. You have to do what’s best for you. My grandparents won’t be able to travel from CT to CA for my wedding, but my bridal shower will be in CT so they can be apart of something. itll work out 🙂
Post # 5
Have the wedding in FL.
My husband and I just got married here in FL, we have lived here two years (him one). Our family is from all over NY state all the way down to the Carolinas.
I wouldn’t expect as huge a turnout as if you did it back home, but I’m sure lots will still come. We got about 100 out of 130 invites.
I’m so happy I didn’t try and go through the stress of having it in NY. My “shower” (it was really a family reunion, lol) was back home and it was a couples shower with my husband. It was nice because we got to see most people who wouldn’t be making it to the wedding.
Post # 6
It is only inconsiderate, in general, to ask people to travel far to a venue that has nothing to do with you or the immediate families. So if you will actually be living in FL, it may be inconvenient, expensive or difficult for some people to get there, but it is not an imposition in the same way a destination wedding might be.
That said, planning so that the grandparents would be able to attend is something we factored in heavily.
Post # 7
Wedding planning is stressful enough when it’s in your own town. Do Florida if that’s what you really want and what will be easiest for you and your fiance!
Post # 8
Did you try looking for a suitable beach house in New Jersey, Long Island or the Conn. Coast?