Post # 1
When my SO started taking me ring shopping, we tried on different carats of diamonds to see which one looked good on my finger. I ended up falling in love with a 1 carat, but when I saw the price tag I knew I didn’t want him to pay that much money for a little sparkly rock. I was pretty sad still, but then I started researching the Diamond industry and found out some pretty terrible things.
I decided eventually that I did not want a Diamond for the E ring but I also didn’t want a CZ or a colored gemstone (not because I secretly wanted diamond but because that’s just my taste preference).
Eventually I started learning about a stone called Moissanite and the more I did research the more excited I became. It was too good to be true! So perfect. Long story short, after doing TONS of research, I decided for myself that I wanted Moissanite and not a Diamond.
Convincing my Boyfriend that I didn’t want a Diamond was a more difficult task than I thought, however. He believed in the “Diamonds are the best, and you deserve the best” mantra. He insisted that he get a diamond and said the only reason I wanted something else was because I wanted something bigger. (which, I admit, was what initiated the research, but in the end was not my reasoning) In the end, I know he just wanted to be sure that I was happy, and not “settling” (which I absolutely wasn’t! I love Moissanite!) Also, he realized that I will be the one wearing it every day and having to look at it for the rest of my life. Hahaha
He is a very kind man, old fashioned and romantic. So I think it was difficult for him to try to get out of the Diamond mindset. In the end he started doing his own research and now we are both on the same page about why Moissanite is better for us (in our opinion-I don’t mean to offend people w diamonds. I think it’s great if diamonds are the best choice for you :))
So, if you have a nonDiamond e ring, was it your choice and had to convince the SO? If so how? Or was it your SO who convinced you? Also post a pic of your nonDiamond e ring! (because it’s fun 🙂 – I know there is another thread with nondiamonds but I would like to see yours here too!)
Thanks! And I hope you all are having a wonderful day!
Post # 3
@sommertime: My story is almost identical to yours, except that I was okay with a smaller diamond (i.e., 1/2 carat), but cost was still part of the reason I looked into Moissanite.
My then-boyfriend wasn’t so sure about going non-Diamond – he’s pretty traditional too, but MoissaniteCo answered all of his questions (unbeknownst to me) and we both love my moissy ring.
Post # 4
Not engaged yet, but there has been a lot of ring talk. At first, SO was hesitant to get me anything but a diamond. He was lukewarm to the idea of moissanite. Then I showed him the website for the Amora gem, and he thought it was pretty cool. Maybe because he studied engineering. So that’s the plan now. Ultimately, he wants to just get me what will make me happy. The price tag helped, too. 🙂
Post # 5
I have an emerald e-ring. Darling Husband was definitely unsure at first, and he must have asked me ten times what I REALLY wanted. But in the end he did propose with an emerald e-ring, which I love, and he’s glad he didn’t go the traditional (read: boring) route!
Post # 6
Same boat. Once I showed him the “Evidence” on the Bee, BTD and Moissaniteco.com….he was convinced. It looks so much like a diamond…so much cheaper…He was down!!
Post # 7
I told DH over and over that I wanted a sapphire or aquamarine, but he was just stuck on the idea that I needed a diamond. He couldn’t get past it, though he eventually stopped thinking the idea was *that* crazy. He did end up getting me diamonds, but he still went the nontraditional route. He got me certified conflict-free Canadian diamonds, and he got around the cost issue by getting me tiny ones. Here’s my baby:
It’s .42 ctw, but since there are 45 stones, they average out to less than .01 carats each.
Post # 8
My SO keeps changing his mind. First I showed him an Asha ring I loved and he said that we should look at diamonds first. So we went and looked at diamonds and after seeing the price we discussed it and decided Asha was the way to go since we will be paying for the wedding and want to save for a house. He said as long as I was happy he didn’t care and we could even get a diamond later on, years from now. A week later he decides he wants to get me a diamond. We arejust starting to look at rings but he is killing me! lol
Post # 9
I also want a moissanite. =) So knows this and has for more than a year, but there’s been a couple times when he has asked “Do you still want that moissanite stone for your engagement ring?” I think that he’s trying to make sure that I get what I really want, and I’m sure your SO is the same way.
Perhaps if you explain to him all your reasons for perfering the stone (cheaper, more sparkly, bigger) in addition to any reason why you wouldn’t want a diamond (the inverses of what I’ve said and/or not supporting the diamond trade and/or not wanting a mined stone, whichever applies) your SO will see that you really do want a moissy.
Post # 10
@LadyBear: That’s awesome! We started looking into MoissaniteCo for a ring too but now my SO’s biggest issue is that he is unsure of whether he wants to buy from an online store and not be able to see it in person first. Their customer service has been excellent so far though! Glad to see someone who bought from them and had no issues with them. 🙂
@abirdword: Very similar to my own situation! Glad everything worked out. 🙂
@Minutiae: Your ring is gorgeous!!! I love it! and I love that it is exactly what you wanted 🙂
@GreenEyedMoon: I really love your ring!! So sparkly! It’s unique and when I look at it I feel like it has its own special story. Just lovely! And I think it is so nice that your Fiance took that extra time and effort to make sure they were conflict-free. Very cool!
@AnastasiaM: Thanks for the advice 🙂 My So and I are pretty much on the same page now and I know he just wants to make sure I’m happy (which I am! I love Moissys! haha)
Post # 11
We looked at diamonds too but found that you didn’t get that much for the price. So I suggested that we get the diamond on an anniversery (which is going to be every 4 years) and spend the money on our wedding bands instead. So here’s what I got instead of an e-ring and I love it
Post # 12
I still stare at my moissy e-ring and think about how its too good to be true, lol! Once I read all the properties to my SO (now FI) he was pretty sold on it as well. He keeps telling his little brothers about it, but i keep warning them to make sure to check with their SOs before buying a moissy lol. just because I’m okay with it doesnt mean everybody is!
Post # 13
i had wanted an amethyst with diamond halo or accents real bad…but hubby refused because “its not a real wedding ring”…..omg…hes such a traditional guy. My ring is beautiful so cant really complain, but i would have loved to have an amethyst ring…i think gemstone rings are absolutely beautiful and unique. oh well
Post # 14
Tbh, he had the look of a scared and confused puppy whenever I was discussing rings, carats, cut etc, so he was happy to let me have whatever I wanted!
Post # 15
I orginally wanted moissy and sapphires in my e-ring but he wasn’t convinced about moissy. So I got a diamond and sapphires, which I love. I’m trying to convince him for a moissy RHR or earrings someday 🙂
Post # 16
@sjyork: Your ring is gorgeous! It looks so pretty!
@em_panda214: I love Amethysts too! They are so beautiful.
@Mrs.SleepyKitty: Haha that is so cute 😀