Post # 1
My fiance and I are attempting to find a reception venue in my parents’ town, even though we both live out of state–on opposite sides of the country from each other! We’ve only been engaged for a week, but it still feels like this process is extremely slow going. We contact a venue, wait for them to return our call, and write down all the information we can gather. Then, we have to communicate the details to each other and our parents, who then go out to look at the venue on our behalf, and email pictures to us. From the pictures, we don’t get a very good feel for what the place is really like, so it just goes into the “maybe” category along with all the others.
A lot of the reception venues that meet our needs (price is right, they have all-inclusive packages which we like because it would be pretty hard to find a caterer from a distance as well) are hotels with beige walls where the color scheme is already predetermined by unattractive carpeting. I want something with more character. It doesn’t have to be elaborate, just with character (maybe with wood or stone features). My fiance and I are outdoorsy, with rustic/country tastes. I’d like to create an ambiance that has natural and antique elements.
Relatives are already saying that they need to know the date of our wedding ASAP so that they can request time off of work. I understand that we need to move quickly on this decision. However, that will probably mean that we end up going with a hotel venue that doesn’t appeal to my tastes. In your opinion, can a venue like this be made to feel unique and personal? I’m really not very crafty and don’t anticipate doing much decorating. But I’d like to use flowers and colors of my chooosing. Could I attractively incorporate lavender, for example, if the carpeting in the banquet hall is red? Why is this so complicated?
Post # 3
I had the very same issue. I would say it took me probably 6 months to find a venue because of me being picky and our budget.
My best advice is to look outside “wedding venues”. I got married in an old vaudeville theatre and had my reception in the historic hotel next door. Neither venue is on any of the vendor listings for my city on any websites, local magazines, etc. I think I stumbled upon a picture of the hotel’s ballroom after searching for historic hotels and lucked into the theatre because they are owned by the same people. Their ballroom was very small but is gorgeous and was perfect for our wedding.
So yeah, my advice is to think outside the box. Maybe search for parks, museums, theatres, art galleries, restaurants… things like that instead of “wedding venues”. A lot of places that have event space and can recommend a preferred caterer without much trouble. Most places have a caterer that they work with a lot and know well.
This was the venue we ended up choosing:
As for the color scheme dilemma. I will say that hotel ballrooms look much different when they are all set-up than they do when they show them empty. The hotel where we got married was brown, gold, beige and sky-blue and our colors were black, white, red and aqua. In the end, no one really noticed.
Post # 4
@zippylef:Thank you! This is beautiful! I’ll take your advice and start thinking outside of the box. It may also be time for me to let go of the belief that we have to go with an all-inclusive package. Maybe it won’t be impossible to contract a caterer separately.
Post # 5
I am totally the type to dive in and I am also not finding anything I like in my budget :/ But since you haven’t been engaged long give yourself a break and enjoy being engaged for a little while. Maybe once you start up again you will feel less overwhelmed.