(Closed) Trouble in MoH land… (long post, sorry)

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

O dang. that all sucks I was the Maid/Matron of Honor in a friends wedding and would have been heartbroken if she “fired” me.  Because you have been friends for son long I would ask her out to lunch one day and have a long talk with her and explain that you understand it is her day but you are really hurt and would like to understand where she is coming from.  Try not to put it on her.  Say something like you aren’t exactly sure why she replaced you and you are sorry if you hurt or offended her any way. Explain how important your friendship is and that you want to fix what ever has been broken.  I hope this all works out for you!

Post # 4
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128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This whole situation just stinks. Sorry that this is going on.

Weddings are stressful. In my opinion, as the bride I have felt the most weight on my shoulders compared to being a Bridesmaid or Best Man, SOG, Flower Girl, Daughter, LOL. You get the point… 🙂

Anyway, your friend could simply be feeling the pressures of making everyone happy and this may be why she is including people that were not originally planned. The stresses of planning a wedding may be getting to her and could possibly be making her a tid more touchy than usual. It may have been hard to hear her best friend complain even a little about any part of her wedding planning or decision making. She could be trying to ease the possible tension off of you by making her brother the honor attendant.

Planing my wedding has made me a little nutso at times. I have been indecisive and kind of well, needy. I am a control freak and wanted to get everything done asap so that I wouldnt need to “worry” about it anymore. This is true especialy with the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. I just wanted to make sure I didnt “need to bug” my Bridal party any more than I had to. I thought it would be better to get that part over with. I too changed my mind a couple of times about the dresses. I was trying not to make anyone unhappy about what they would wear on my wedding day.

Anyway, maybe this is something similar to what your Bestie is thinking also. If it were my friend, I would sit down with her and discuss it. Let her know how much you are there for her. How sorry you are to hear that she thinks you are being negative. Maybe ask for an example. It could be eye opening. I am sure she means well as I am sure you do as well. She has been your friend for 15 years and I am sure it won’t end there.

Best of luck to you! 🙂

 

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