- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
I’ve been with my fiance for about three years now. We’ve been engaged for one year. And we’ve been friends since high school. We’re 24 and 25.
Last year he was caught by one of my girlfriends, flirting with a girl they both knew. My girlfriend, whom I’ve been friends with since childhood, said that my fiance and this girl were laughing, flirting, and exchanged many long, intimate hugs. And that’s fine, I am not controlling and I will never tell him what to do, or who to be friends with. But something about this girl makes me uneasy, and my girlfriend said that the way they were behaving together was not appropriate.
I confronted him about it, to which he denied, saying she was just a friend, and he did nothing wrong. 3 more times this happened, and he finally got the point and stopped talking to her.
Since then I’ve felt differently towards him. Empty, almost. He doesn’t make me feel happy like he used to. He annoys me so fast, everything he does is so immature. I don’t have butterflies anymore and that’s another thing that scares me. I always thought when you’re in love with someone, they will never cease to give you butterflies.
As we’re approaching our three year anniversary, I feel more and more distant from him. He almost never kisses me, unless I kiss him first. He never wants to spend the night at my house anymore, and he never initiates being intimate… Honestly I cant remember the last time we were intimate. He says he’s absolutely crazy for me, but I really dont feel like he’s putting in the effort to show that to me.
I’m just so lost on what to do. I’ve been holding on and trying to make things work. We’ve taken breaks, spent time apart, and I even went on a date with another guy (who gave me endless butterflies)… But I want to be with my fiance.
I’m just afraid that I’m no longer in love with him, and there is nothing I can do.