Post # 1
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Blushing bee
My wedding is in July of 2013, so I have over a year and a half.
So I recently started a new job and haven’t been spending a lot of time with my old co workers. One of my old co workers I have been close with for 4 years, but I know she’s not really supportive of the wedding. She pretends to be, but I know it’s always in the back of her head. I’ve only spent time with her about 4 times in the last 2 months (I haven’t seen her in over a month and have only talked to her twice via text) and I feel like it’s always me making the initiative. However, I think she assumes she’ll be a bridesmaid because i’m not close to many people.
Then I’ve been at this new job for 2 months and become really close with 2 girls. We went to a bridal show together and we’re going to go look at a venue and they’re helping me with questions. They are super involved. Would it be WEIRD to ask these girls who I’ve only known for 2 months?! Would you be weirded out? They enjoy helping me plan, but is asking to be a bridesmaid too much?
Then I kinda feel bad I haven’t asked anyone because these girls from my new job and taking on the responsibilities of bridesmaids so maybe they expect me to ask them? I have over a year till the wedding so when should I make this decision? I got engaged 2 months ago and have purposely been waiting because I had a feeling I would be losing contact with some old friends. Do you think my new friends will think I’m only asking them because I don’t have anyone else? Because that’s not really what it is, I think my new friends are people I’ll be close with for years. I guess I’m just confused!
Post # 3
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Busy bee
I think if they are doing all these things a bridesmaid normally does then I don’t think it would be weird to ask them
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
@ItsDestiny: Thanks! That’s what I was thinking.. I just needed to hear others opinions to see if they’d be creeped out lol
Post # 5
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Helper bee
No, I’d be excited! It’s always fun to form new friendships and this could only make you guys closer. If you’re really worried about it though you can still wait a couple more months to ask. I waited 3-4 months to ask all of my girls and my Fiance still hasn’t asked all of his side of the party yet.
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
@anenglish15: I dont think its weird at all but can I suggest waiting till the end of the year to ask them? Anything can happen in a year when it comes to friendships and weddings. I would wait a bit longer.
Post # 7
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Honey bee
I agree that you have a lot of time and it might be a good idea to wait and see how your new friendships pan out. 2 months isn’t really a lot of time to judge if these friendships are long lasting and a lot can happen in a year and a half.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
I think it’s a little premature to worry about it. Give it 6 months and see how your friendships stand. The way I would look back at it is – 40 years from now, will I – or will I want to – remember their names when someone asks?
Post # 9
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Newbee
What’s the rush! July 2013 is a long ways off and picking people now (or stressing about it now) is not necessary. I would wait until about 8 months before the wedding. I asked someone at the six months before mark and it wasn’t weird at all. I read an article recently that said that one of the biggest regrets for brides was choosing people really early. Hope this helps and good luck!
Post # 10
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Worker bee
Take it from me, a bride that regrets her choice!!! Leave it as long as you can but end of day you pick who you want, its your day!!! Dont be influenced like i was!