Post # 1
My fiance and I are having issues deciding on size of wedding party and who to include. Our main issues are that when we get married my sisters will be 33 and 36 and his brothers will be 11 and 19. I am close to my sisters and he is close to his brothers but it might be weird to have a 33-36 yr old walking down the aisle with a 19 year old if they are Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man. The other issue is that I have a large group of friends with about 5 really close friends while he has maybe 1 or 2 close friends. We would hate to have to ask someone to be a groomsman that he is not super close to. Should I not have my sisters as bridesmaids so at least everyone is around the same age? or just have Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man with no bridesmaids and groomsmen? really struggling with this. we still have a lot of time to decide before needing to ask anyone
Post # 2
Who are you both actually closest to? Who do you each want standing by your side? Who will you be happy years from now to look at the picture of your wedding party and see in the picture? I would start by thinking about those things instead of ages and numbers.
Post # 3
……. especially even numbers.
+1 to Scarlett11:
Post # 4
Pick whoever you want there with you, don’t worry about even numbers or ages. The bridesmaids and groomsmen don’t have to walk down together either. A lot of weddings have all the groomsmen stand at the altar with the groom and the bridesmaids walk down individually. You can find ways to make it work
Post # 5
There is a little bit of an age difference between my fiancé and I as well. I told him he can’t have his old cousins with my friends and sisters. Lol Maybe you can have a couple of junior bridesmaids for his brothers and you can have his older cousins or yours for your sisters.
Post # 6
Doesn’t matter! It’s your day to be surrounded by the ppl you love and so who cares about age difference and all that! I also don’t mind if there’s an uneven amount of bridesmaids to groomsmen or whatever. I have friends who regretted putting ppl in they weren’t very close with! Remember they will be in your pictures forever!!!
Post # 7
yeah, i wouldn’t worry about ages or even numbers. my maid of honor was 17 and the best man was, like, 30…no big deal…it’s just a little bit of walking.
Post # 8
I also had a big age gap. Granted our boys were adults, but there was still nearly a 15 year difference between the groomsman and bridesmaid. We just made one or two jokes and then did the event. They look great and it’s no big deal. I’d be hurt if I was left out or “juniored” just because I wasn’t as old as the other side. It’s not a good reason.
Post # 9
I would not worry about the ages of those in your wedding party. If they are important to you their ages do not matter. Also, don’t worry about not having the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen either. My fiance and I do not have the same amount and I am fine with it, I have all my important girls standing next to me and he has his guys, the amount does not matter. Don’t ask someone you are not close to simply to have the same number.