(Closed) Trouble picking bridesmaids and groomsmen

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
2147 posts
Buzzing bee

Who are you both actually closest to?  Who do you each want standing by your side?  Who will you be happy years from now to look at the picture of your wedding party and see in the picture?  I would start by thinking about those things instead of ages and numbers. 

Post # 3
449 posts
Helper bee

……. especially even numbers.

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Post # 4
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Pick whoever you want there with you, don’t worry about even numbers or ages. The bridesmaids and groomsmen don’t have to walk down together either. A lot of weddings have all the groomsmen stand at the altar with the groom and the bridesmaids walk down individually. You can find ways to make it work

Post # 5
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

There is a little bit of an age difference between my fiancé and I as well. I told him he can’t have his old cousins with my friends and sisters. Lol Maybe you can have a couple of junior bridesmaids for his brothers and you can have his older cousins or yours for your sisters.

Post # 6
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Doesn’t matter! It’s your day to be surrounded by the ppl you love and so who cares about age difference and all that! I also don’t mind if there’s an uneven amount of bridesmaids to groomsmen or whatever. I have friends who regretted putting ppl in they weren’t very close with! Remember they will be in your pictures forever!!! 

Post # 7
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

yeah, i wouldn’t worry about ages or even numbers. my maid of honor was 17 and the best man was, like, 30…no big deal…it’s just a little bit of walking.


Post # 8
6896 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I also had a big age gap.  Granted our boys were adults, but there was still nearly a 15 year difference between the groomsman and bridesmaid. We just made one or two jokes and then did the event.  They look great and it’s no big deal.  I’d be hurt if I was left out or “juniored” just because I wasn’t as old as the other side.  It’s not a good reason.

Post # 9
47 posts
  • Wedding: October 2016

I would not worry about the ages of those in your wedding party.  If they are important to you their ages do not matter.  Also, don’t worry about not having the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen either.  My fiance and I do not have the same amount and I am fine with it, I have all my important girls standing next to me and he has his guys, the amount does not matter.  Don’t ask someone you are not close to simply to have the same number. 

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