(Closed) Trouble Picking Wedding Party

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
961 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Does not have to be equal. Close your eyes and see what is ideal for you. I won’t have a wedding party. I have a lot of close friends and its too hard to decide without hurting some feelings, and I don’t want to manage a bridal party. AT ALL. I’m finding out my closest friends are okay (um, actually happy with it, because it won’t cost them additional $), and I think my good friends who might have wanted to be bridesmaids will be okay.

Funny enough, our pastor is close to both of us, and I feel like he is standing up there for us.

So, close your eyes. Who do you see standing next to you on your special day? CONGRATS by the way ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 3
47423 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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foundmysoulmate:  If you are not getting married in a cathedral, 11 is a bit much. There is a special role for the other people- guest.

Just because you don’t ask someone to be in your bridal party, it doesn’t mean you don’t care for them, they are not close or you don’t value their support. When you get to the point that you are having to invent roles/duties, it’s a sign you have too many people on your list.


Post # 4
4702 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Well for one thing I understand your dilemma.. It’s really hard to “choose” sometimes but it can also get out of hand if you end up giving everyone a Bridal Party role.. Just wanted to share my friends’ experience with this..

She had 6 BMs and her Fiance had 13. Yes…. 13. Was it a bit much, maybe.. But quite honestly this was expected of him, he has a large family and a group of childhood guys that he grew up with and he didn’t want to exclude anyone…

i say do whatever you want, IMO it’s the more the merrier, but it may be less of a hassle to just you have 2 and maybe your Fiance have two as well and call it a day! 

worry if I’m not much help ๐Ÿ˜’

Post # 5
4807 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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foundmysoulmate:   In your situation I’d suggest having your brother and sister as joint MOHs and ask everyone else as a guest.  I say this because I had a similar situation – and would have ended up with a bridal party of nine (at least) for a wedding with a guest list of about 60.   I chose to have one Best Woman, and my DH had a Best Man and two ushers.  It really was better to have the almost-bridal party people come as guests – easier on them and simpler for me.  We made sure in our ceremony script to have a special section welcoming and including everyone.

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