Trouble Transitioning

posted 3 months ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

marti930 :  I’m assuming that before marriage you lived with your family, is that right? How old are you? Have you ever lived away from your family before?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think it’s normal to feel homesick after being away from family for the first time.  Maybe make the tradition less abrupt?  Like Skype or Marco Polo with your family or just talk on the phone.  Are you working? That might help you get out of your own head a bit. Even volunteering at the local library would give you something new to think about instead of missing your family.  

Just know that this is normal and it’ll be okay.  TBH,  I do miss my old house.  I didn’t move in with dh until after the wedding either.  We had the wedding,  then immediately went on our honeymoon, and have been home and back to our normal schedules since Monday.

Now Ive lived on my own for a lot of years (I’m 36), but I did have a sister as my roommate before the wedding and I do miss having her around, although I miss my house more lol,  it was a great house.. .  Even when you are happy for a change,  change is hard.  I know you’ll get through this.  Just give it time. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Well it sounds pretty normal to be homesick. It’s like when I first left home to go to college. I definitely missed home! 

Do you work? Have some hobbies? I’d just try to stay busy and focus on your new marriage. Try to focus on the new exciting things you’re learning about each other. This should be a really fun chapter in your life. Try not to dwell on the negative. Focus on the positive. 

Post # 7
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5986 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

marti930 :  Well…what are your interests? Do you like to cook? Exercise? Read? Paint? Juggle? Yoga? Lion taming? 😉

Post # 9
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5986 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

marti930 :  Well there you go. I’d research maybe an art class or something like that in your area. If you’re looking into calming the mind, give yoga a try! Or maybe combine both and look for a pottery class. I personally find working with wet clay to be very relaxing and calming. Joining classes like that can be a good way to meet new friends too. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

marti930 :  I love meet-up if they have stuff in your area.  Also, if you like the arts,  maybe take a class at the local community college in an instrument or artistic medium,  like jewelry making or guitar. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee

Are there any artsy projects you could take on in your new home? Or practice cooking some new dishes during the week to serve to your family at your new home on the weekend? What do you and your husband like to do together? Explore your area–parks, new restaurants, etc. 

Post # 12
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796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

marti930 :  are you and your Darling Husband in your own home now? If yes, then start doing some decorating that’ll make you feel like it’s all your own. Maybe a fresh coat of paint, frame and put up photos, add some knick knacks, make a little seating area that’s just your own with a comfy chair, some books, etc. Once you start making the house more a hone, you’ll settle in quickly. Also, start getting into a routine with your Darling Husband, making dinner together, going for walks, date night, etc. Best of luck bee!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

marti930 :  I recently rediscovered crochet – it’s creative but also really relaxing and calming. Plus I’m starting to make cute baby things for all my friends!

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