(Closed) Trouble with the bms

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2959 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am afraid this seems to be increasingly common. Many bees would tell you that as long as they show up on the big day appropriately dressed, their role has been furfilled. I happen to agree with you – it would be nice if BMs were more interested and asked how things were going, offer feedback, etc. Hopefully you have least one of two who are more involved.

Post # 4
2324 posts
Buzzing bee

That’s why the Bee is around 🙂

Discuss until your heart is content!

Post # 5
7680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Were they like this before you got engaged (i.e. never showed any interest in your life)? If yes, perhaps they’re not very good friends. If no, then probably you have changed without realising it. Or you are getting ahead of yourself. After all, you haven’t been engaged long, and your wedding is 9 months away.

And the reasons you give: baby, mission trip, school, (and being 8!) – they are all more important tham someone else’s wedding. Plus, it’s a crazy time, close to Christmas. Give it time.

Post # 8
8681 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@alwayscountry:  I don’t understand why some brides think that because they get engaged and start planning a wedding that their friends long term behaviour will suddenly change. This is who your friends are and obviously since you are still friends with them it hasn’t been a major issue in the past.

You have two choices:1.accept your friends for how they are or 2. get new friends. But I would cut the 8 year old some slack- she’s 8 for goodness sake her major priority is who Justin Beibers girlfriend is etc not your wedding.


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