Post # 1
I have a problem. I have bridesmaids but. None of them are showing any interest. Yes I know they all have lives like two are having a baby and one is in high school and one is 8 and the other one is on a mission trip.. But they never ask me anything about what’s going on with the wedding. And I always have to be the one to start conversations with theM. And when I do. The topic stays on them. I don’t want to be a brat. But. Is t wrong that I would at least want them asking me how things are going. And if there is anything that can be helped with?
Please help and shed some light on my dark time
Post # 3
I am afraid this seems to be increasingly common. Many bees would tell you that as long as they show up on the big day appropriately dressed, their role has been furfilled. I happen to agree with you – it would be nice if BMs were more interested and asked how things were going, offer feedback, etc. Hopefully you have least one of two who are more involved.
Post # 4
That’s why the Bee is around 🙂
Discuss until your heart is content!
Post # 5
Were they like this before you got engaged (i.e. never showed any interest in your life)? If yes, perhaps they’re not very good friends. If no, then probably you have changed without realising it. Or you are getting ahead of yourself. After all, you haven’t been engaged long, and your wedding is 9 months away.
And the reasons you give: baby, mission trip, school, (and being 8!) – they are all more important tham someone else’s wedding. Plus, it’s a crazy time, close to Christmas. Give it time.
Post # 6
But I don’t want to be the one who says you have to help blah blah blah. But I don’t want to feel like I’m doing everything by myself and I am afraid that how it will be. Well along with my family’s help of corse. But that’s what they are “there” for in live every movie you see. Buti know times have changed. And I know people are buiSy. But. I have my pRince. Why can’t it be. Like a movie as well
Post # 7
They were like this before as well. Every one of them I have always had to start conversations with. Or we would go a month without talking. And I would things that’s silly so I would start up another conversation to talk again
Post # 8
@alwayscountry: I don’t understand why some brides think that because they get engaged and start planning a wedding that their friends long term behaviour will suddenly change. This is who your friends are and obviously since you are still friends with them it hasn’t been a major issue in the past.
You have two choices:1.accept your friends for how they are or 2. get new friends. But I would cut the 8 year old some slack- she’s 8 for goodness sake her major priority is who Justin Beibers girlfriend is etc not your wedding.