Post # 1
I have recently picked my bridal party of four girls that have been in my life for many years now. But my fiance has two sisters that i didnt put in it. Which he is totaly fine with. But when he told them that they werent in it they became very angry. I wouldnt of mind having one if the sisters in it beacause i really like her and i was in her wedding last year. But with them when you pick one you HAVE to have the other. I dont want to put them in it now and look like a push over. Heck i have brother and a sister and they arnt even in it! Need some advice on how to deal with the backlash im going to get from them ;/
Post # 3
@KittyKat87: Perhaps you can have them in other roles in the wedding. Readers or something. Realistically, they will probably be angry. If you don’t want them in your party you may just have to deal with the backlash and reiterate “i’m sorry, we want to keep it small and these are who I chose”.
Post # 4
Stand your ground, you have your FH support, you dont owe anyone else an explaination.
Post # 5
I was in my SIL’s wedding and my other sister was not. You can have one and not the other. Especially if you are only close with one and you were in her wedding.
Post # 6
I understand what you mean about the sisters often being a package deal – while many women are mature and understand the limitations of a wedding party, others do not. This is one of the reasons I avoided a wedding party altogether – but you’re beyond that point now.
LIke the others said, find roles for the sisters (maybe they could be greeters/ushers, readers, give toasts, etc.) or I’d take the next opportunity you see them to explain that those you chose have been very long-term friends or lifelong friends. Then, reiterate how much you care about the sisters, show an interest in their lives, etc. I think many people falsely conclude that if they are left out of the wedding party, it’s out of spite. So doubling on your effort to appear cordial and kind to them may erase that perception.
You can always go with the timeless, “We just want our families to enjoy it and catch every second of our ceremony!”