Post # 1
I am a part of of bridal party of 7 women and am working closely with the Maid/Matron of Honor to plan the bachelorette party for the bride. Of course her expectations are that of champagne tastes; but, we all have beer money. She wants to have her party in Vegas, which is fine, but she has a hard time being realistic about cost and expectations of the weekend.
Many of us have families, other important expenses, and haven’t been able to save for an elaborate bachelorette party; considering that we’ve had less than a year to get things together for this wedding.
I’m concerned that the Maid/Matron of Honor, and I, are taking the brunt of costs and I hate to nitpick money; but what is the proper etiquette for getaway bachelorette parties?
- Can we ask everyone who is going to pitch in to cover the cost of the bride?
- How do I stick to everyone’s budget?
- How do I explain to the bride that she may not get the bachelorette party of her dreams?
Post # 2
botheredbridesmaid: So for starters, the bride shouldn’t really have input on this. Bach parties are not mandatory and it’s super nice of you all to put one together for her in the first place.
Honestly, the Maid/Matron of Honor should probably reach out to each Bridesmaid or Best Man individually to figure out if the party is in each girl’s budget and to determine what that budget is. Once she’s done that, she can figure out what sort of party you all can afford to throw. I would factor the cost of the bride into this overall number.
Going to Vegas is expensive, and sticking to everyone’s budget may require a bach that isn’t a full blown getaway weekend. This shouldn’t require any “explaining” to the bride. If I were this bride and I knew my bach party put any one of my friends or family members in financial hardship, I would be VERY uncomfortable.
Host the party you all can afford to host, and I’m sure everyone will have a great time!
Post # 3
botheredbridesmaid: I don’t know what the proper etiquette is, but it’s odd that the bride is demanding a bachelorette party in Vegas. It’s up to the host where the party should be held. And as a host, you should consider everyone’s budgets if it has been discussed and agreed upon that everyone (in the bridal party) should chip in.
I think it’s fine to ask the rest of the bridesmaids to help financially with the bachelorette party. However, I would not plan a party in Vegas due to everyone’s budget constraints. You can still plan a nice party that’s not in Vegas. Just tell the bride that due to logistics, it makes more sense to host a party locally.
Post # 4
Stick with your budget. Just get the bride drunk enough and she won’t remember what was going on anyways. I’m being funny, but its partially true.
Honestly, you can do things on the super cheap in Vegas and still have it be nice. Ask everyone to help chip in on the cost for the bride. That may mean something as simple as splitting the hotel room cost amongst the seven of you and ONE nice dinner out somewhere. That keeps it reasonable and no one has to fork out a ton of money.
The last time I was in vegas, we spent most of our money on food and taxis to get around the strip. We spent our own money on gambling and frankly, we spent most of the time drunk wandering the city. And it was a BLAST.
You don’t have to tell the bride anything – she doesn’t get to plan her bachelorette party, you guys do. And if she has grand expectations that fail to get met, that’s her problem, not yours. If my girls told me they were taking me to vegas, I wouldn’t care how much money they did or didn’t spend, I’d be super excited just to go back to Vegas with the girls!! It shouldn’t matter where you go or how much you spend. It should be about the time together with all of you, celebrating the bride! If she doesn’t ge that then she’s a spoiled brat.