(Closed) True cost of a wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

having a traditional wedding is extortion in the bay area! I was so upset for weeks as everyone told us 26-46 K for 200 people. JUST for the reception.  shop shop shop and haggle. we are doing an amazing wedding in an amazing venue for under 15K and 226 ppl. i will say our photos will be $2500 which is very cheap, everywhere else was 5K. 5 freakin K for bay area!!! What surprised me the most was how the price doubled when you said “wedding” and how people are so out to take your money! awful!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Our wedding (which included two receptions, both in high-cost areas) was under $10,000.  (One was near Boston, and one was in Washington, DC, both of which are listed as among the highest cost in the country.)  I suspect the “average” is pulled up when a few people with really high cost weddings get averaged in with a bunch of people with much lower cost weddings.  For example, if one person has a wedding with a $100,000 budget, and five people have weddings with budgets of $4,000 each, the average wedding budget is $20,000, but most people have budgets far below that.  And if you look at the chart, although the average is nearly $27,000, only one in five weddings is over $30,000.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I will not show this link to my Fiance because we are over the average cost on just about everything. OOPS! And by no means are we having an over the top wedding, heck I feel ours is run of the mill average! It depends a lot on where you live.

The most surprising cost to me was a good videographer these days.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ours is on track to be in the 45k range… When I started planning, I was estimating 25k…. sigh…

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Goodatlove:  That site scared the heck out of me!  Their bridal budget is nearly identical to ours. 

The one thing that is way off is the transportation.  There is no way for me to transport my bridal party for $667.00

Thanks for the link!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I was hell bent on keeping it under $10K, but realistically, we’re probably going to come in right under $13K. This does include the dress and accessories, and my estimate for the casual at-home rehearsal dinner, but not the rings.

This is for a Saturday evening wedding in May, for 125 persons with a consumption-based beer/wine bar, a combination of passed and stationary apps, and multiple entree served buffet at a restaurant in the Baltimore-DC corridor. And cupcakes. Alllll about the cupcakes.

 

ETA: That particular breakdown is fairly close in dress and favors. We’re saving doing the reception and ceremony on the same site, finding a venue with a very low fee, and finding a photog about half the price estimated there. We’re also not using a florist and doing silk flowers, and got a small price break on the DJ.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yep this is roughly me except I have less guests. I’m in a pricier area though. I’ve spent 25k and that’s about $300 a guest. I actually like how much I’m spending and am okay with it. I know I could have spent double if I hadn’t budgeted and DIYed so much.

This doesn’t include my wedding band though.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

For my area, I’m 20k under budget.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We were slightly under average. It really depends on the area, and whether you rent a venue that usually does weddings or the VFW.

But yeah, photography for $2,000 sounds reasonable. Most photographers I looked into started at that with their basic, minimalistic no-bells-and-whistles package. We got a 6 hour package with 2 photographers and full rights to the pictures for that amount and patted ourselves on our shoulders for finding such a good deal.

Our venue was ~$14k for 144 people, including open bar. Awesome deal in our area.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m still trying to figure out how “venues” come to 15-40 k ?

For that -I better be eating off of 24 karart gold plates and eating with diamond bedazzled silverware. Also someone maybe wiping my butt in the bathroom? (j/k) lol

How on earth did weddings get so expensive? That is a entire year of school loans, a car, a chunk of a house!!!

I think there are much cheaper options but the fact is people don’t wanna go there. We have an idea about what a wedding is supposed to look like and we need to match it. Also do most people typically have 200-300 close family and friends or are those numbers full of acquaintances and formalities?

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Eva Peron: “I think there are much cheaper options but the fact is people don’t wanna go there. We have an idea about what a wedding is supposed to look like and we need to match it.”

–> THIS!

I could have done without what weddings are “supposed to be like”, but Darling Husband and his family insisted it had to be done the “traditional” way.

I love our pictures, though, and don’t regret spending $2,000 on them. They are forever!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’d say this is pretty accurate. My buget’s $20k and I gave myself a 5k buffer. To pull off anything under 30k you really need to think outside the box. All the weddings I’ve ever been to have been big fat greek ones (200+ people). This something I neither want nor can afford.

Your $9000 is doable so long as you’re not picky on several aspects of your wedding. Particularly the ceremony (time, place, length, open bar?), dress, photography and video (which I am forgoing) .

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Mrs.Argentina – We really do need to have a wedding of 200. 165 are directly related to us (no one is further related than a cousin) and we didn’t invite all of our family. My parents are divorced and my dad is one of six (and they’re a close family, we couldn’t leave anyone out!) and my stepdad is one of 9.

Wow! I found this really interesting, even though I live in Canada. I can see where we spent our money differently – its interesting to see the “average” person’s priorities. 

For fun (and I’m curious as to other’s break downs!)

Total Budget: $22,000

Month: July
Not a Destination Wedding
5 Bridesmaids
3 Groomsmen
Bride: 24
Groom: 24

Guests: 200
Average spent on guests: $110
Engagement length: 3 years
Living together? No
Month Proposed: July

Reception Venue: $990
Catering: $7600 ($40 a head)
E-Ring: $1750
Reception Band: (Photobooth) $500
Photographer: $2100
Florist: $1035
Videographer: none
Ceremony Site: $450
Rehersal Dinner: $250
Wedding Gown: $1700
Reception DJ: iPod! $150 speaker rental
Wedding Day Transport: $300 to rent an SUV (My dress won’t fit in our cars) 
Wedding Cake: $500
Ceremony Musicians: $50
Invitations: $350 incuding postage
Favours: $300

How did we afford our wedding? Parents

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper

That graphic was pretty dead-on for us. We spent less for a few things, more on others. Meaning that while we splurged on some things like our reception and photography, we scrimped in other areas, like our wedding cake and invitations.

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