- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Okay so idk what to do..
Fiance and I have had arguements lately about him going out..when I met him he was living with 4 other guys who were really into partying, drugs..my fiance took part occasionally but he always was and remains to be extremely hard working and he mostly just did his own thing. He moved 6 months ago and we’ve been living together.. The thing is..I really dont like some of his friends, what they do, etc. He really hasnt seen much of them to be honest and Im perfectly okay with that.
We’ve been engaged for two months now..and I think its starting to bother him that he doesnt see much of some of his friends..he knows I dont like them. He knows it stresses me out if he were to go out with them.. I really try to not get worked up or show that it bothers me bu I dont know what to do. I dont want him out with people whose main objective for a night is to get obliterated, do drugs, hit on women, etc.
Yesterday my fiances relative came into town..He is good friends with a girl that I work with and was planning to go out to dinner and drinks with a few of them. I asked my fiance what the plan was as I was working last night and wanted to know what he was doing. He said his cousin was meeting the girls I work with but he wasnt good..to which I replied, “good.” I dont see the need for my fiance to spend time drinking and socializing with 4 single women that I work with. He later said he didnt want to go anyway but that he knew it would be a problem…
this is really hard for me becase I trust him and I know wihtout a doubt that he would never do anything..but I also have the sense to understand that the way I act makes him feel sometimes like I dont trust him.. there are certain things that I dont find appropriate for people to do when theyre in committed relationships and last night I think i was in the right.
The other thing too is that we have one of my fiances friends living with us and hes been in a committed relationship for 2 years..and in the time hes been here he’s brought 3 girls home that I know of. I find it to be very disheartening when all around us are provocations that relationships dont work and that people cheat etc.
I say I trust him nd I feel that I do..but I get worked up when he wants to go off with his buddies or the cheating roommate. am I crazy?