(Closed) Trust me bees, don't stress!

posted 5 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
1129 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am planning, and I do think it is possible to have a stress free planning. Personally, my stress is comming mostly from outside. I couldn’t care less about the details. But mom’s and people having an opinion on everything don’t help at all.

Post # 3
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think I have done a really good job of telling people to shove it when they want to make wedding planning more stressful for us than it needs to be.  I am a perfectionist by nature so I know that to some extent I am going to be wrapped up in details but I’m allowing myself certain spots to do that and the rest of it, I’m letting go.  I don’t care if someone isn’t happy with the date/day we’ve choosen.  If you can’t come because it’s a 4 hour drive? Sorry, we will miss you.  Our wedding is not revolving around the guests.  It’s for us.  We’d love for you to be there to celebrate with us but if you can’t, that’s fine too.  I don’t care if our choices don’t follow what “wedding ettiquite” says…do. not. care.

Post # 4
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

AnaA:  I’m with you on that one.  Unfortunately my fiance and I both recently lost our moms so the stress would be welcome from them BUT my sister is driving me crazy.  She calls me every other day and asks about certain details.  One of my bridesmaids used to work in a dress store and you should have heard the stress in her voice when I said I hadn’t gotten my gown yet.  I’m not stressed…leave me alone people!

Post # 6
7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

TogetherThroughLife:  I think you did a great job with your advice. I worried too much about people’s opinions and all the small stuff until a few months before the wedding where I just went eff it, and let things fall into place. Glad I did because it was way less stressful and wonderful. Now, almost a year and a half later and a little one on the way, my wedding is a beautiful memory because of who I shared it with, not because of the monogramed napkin rings (I never had those lol).

Post # 9
11697 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

TogetherThroughLife:  I”m planning at the moment, and I’ve been told on numerous occasions I’m one of the most laid back brides vendors have ever dealt with.  That’s not to say I haven’t had my moments where I’ve been obsessed with a random detail that doesn’t matter.  I am not a relaxed person by nature, so I know that planning a wedding has huge potential to be a massively stressful event for me, so I’m trying really hard to apply the ‘everything will work out’ mantra that I use in my work life.

So far so good!

Post # 8
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

Yes, this is great advice!

Post # 10
3830 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

TogetherThroughLife:  You and I are very alike. I didnt want the big wedding and was pissed off i was pushed into it by everyone. I’m totally picky and i didnt want or need help and felt irritated when people pushed their opinion on my wedding. Looking back, it didnt really matter. None of it really matters.  We had a nice day, and i have some nice pictures, but i could have been married in a shed during a downpour and would have been just as happy. 

Honestly, the second the wedding stress went away, the happier we became. We are happier now, 7 months out from the wedding then we were during the entire planning process. I’m so happy we got married, but i will never plan another wedding. You could not pay me. 


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