Post # 16
It took me so long to find “the” dress that I think my bridesmaids were tired of coming to shop with me! So I just started shopping alone : ) It totally worked out for me. Although in the end, one of my best friends was there with me when I found the dress. don’t hesitate – no sales lady ever made me feel bad for going alone!
Post # 17
michy604: I had the exact thought process and experience. When I brought my best friends it was to show them because they were upset they were not included in the “expereince”
Post # 18
At least on Say Yes to the Dress, there can be drama associated with having people with you when you try on the dresses. It will definitely go faster if you go yourself. I made the dress decision myself and only showed my friends once I had decided. The bridal salon people won’t judge.
Post # 19
I went by myself the first time, I am soooo glad I did!!!!!!
Post # 20
somethingbee: Hi! This is not weird at all! In fact a few salons I made appointments with suggested scheduling a first appointment for a silhouette check. This appointment was to do exactly what you stated: To get the jitters out, see why you like, see how different designers are cut, etc. I actually went to one of these appointments and found it super helpful… I ended up purchasing my gown at this boutique at a subsequent appointment. In general, it just helped me feel calm when I was ready to buy. It also helped me feel like a “bride” because I got to put on a few dresses that I knew I likely wouldn’t purchase for my wedding but that looked fun!
Post # 21
Having people around can really bring an appointment down. Especially if they dont give constructive feedback, are too interested in picking out what THEY like, etc etc. I think going alone is a great idea!
Post # 22
I totally went by myself the first time. The owner of the shop said that it was great that I was doing by myself before I bring in a whole bunch of opinions. She even said more brides should do this so they can figure out what they want. I’m going back on Saturday with my mom, sister, and one of my bridesmaids now that I have an idea of what I want.
Post # 23
I went by myself because I knew exactly what style I was looking for. My mom passed away so really I had one girlfriend and my sister that would want to be there. I KNEW my sister would be a pain in the butt and make me try on dresses that I didn’t like so going ahead of time really helped keep my focus. I tried on a bunch of dresses, picked a favorite and asked the bridal salons to not mention me being there before. I made another appointment and went back with my sister and bridesmaid. My sister was glad she got to be a part of the process and I was able to keep a clear head about what I wanted.
Post # 24
somethingbee: my fiance and I moved to a new city together without knowing anyone here. I had to start the whole planning process on my own. This included dress shopping! I went to probably 3 or 4 dress shops all on my own. I think it actually helped a lot because I was able to see the dresses and form my own opinions without friends or family chiming in. Sales people were also very understanding with taking photos of the dresses for me, so I was able to message photos to get opinions and look back on them when I got home.
in the end, I used the visits to determine which silhouettes were most flattering on me. Then I did LOTS and LOTS of research on gowns in that silhouette so I could see what I liked and what was out there. I ended up loving a Spring 2015 Mori Lee but no place really had it just yet.. so I called a few shops in the New York area hoping to try it on with future Mother-In-Law and SIL while visiting for the holidays. I got lucky and actually found one shop who special ordered the gown in time for me and I loved it on!! And I’m thankful that for the gown I ended up going with I actually had outside opinions to help out.
I don’t think going by yourself is a huge deal at all. It’s probably beneficial, and while most people go with others, I also don’t think it’s as rare as you might think.
Post # 25
somethingbee: if you have time to prepare, I suggest reading up on silhouettes, fabrics, necklines, etc. I also learned quite a bit about bustles as well, since I wanted to have an idea of what a dress might look like with the bustle.
Post # 26
I went to the first salon myself just to get over the whole omg I have to get over being fat and putting on a dress. It was just me and the sale consultant in a small salon, thankfully. But once i put on the dress it was fun. Second salon not so much because theor samples didn’t fit even thought they were the same size. I had my Fiance with me because he didn’t understand the whole buying process and he was paying for it. I didn’t care that he saw me because we are older and I wouldn’t be totally fixed up. By the third salon my daughter joined us. While I liked that she was with me, in hind site, I really wish I was alone because I would have done just fine selecting my own dress, because the whole time in the back of my mind I was worrying about two people who hate shopping and can’t wait to go home. yeah. They made me more nervous when I had to come out and model And it was embarrassing. I didn’t spend enough time looking at details and rushed thru it. It was more fun alone.
The salons are understanding coming alone or bringing who you want. I vote alone or be very selective and limited in guest.
Post # 27
I did it quite a few times. I told one lady that i had no intention of buying at the time but was just browsing. She helped me with no problem. I ended up going back with my mom and buying a dress from her.
Post # 28
I think it’s a wonderful idea to go by yourself!!
Post # 29
- Wedding: June 2015 - Surrey, BC, Canada
mskalyn: That sucks! I am also having the same thing with invites. 2 of my bridesmaids don’t care about anything (can’t blame em there, I wouldn’t care so much either if it wasn’t my wedding lol). 2 of them are helpful sometimes. My Maid/Matron of Honor made a big deal about how she HAS to help me make invitations, etc. Well I need to make them this month (I am starting school in February full-time while also working full-time so I won’t have time before June). Anyway she got engaged, and planned a 5 week wedding for Jan 31st. So understandably she is super busy with her own wedding stuff. No problem, I was kinda hoping I could do the invites myself anyway. So I do them, great. Now she is all mad at me and NOT TALKING TO ME because I didn’t “include her”. WTF. She said she didn’t have time to do them in January, and January is the only time I am free to do it soooo… does not compute. GAH. I just hate drama crap like that. I just ignore it until people get over themselves. 🙂
Post # 30
I feel a lot better going by myself now. I didn’t realize so many people actually did it that way – it’s never talked about I guess!