(Closed) Trying for a certain Gender

posted 7 years ago in TTC
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Were not TTC yet….but when we decide to I am going to follow every single wives tale no matter how silly so I can to try and have a girl lol….point me south, eat a lemon whatever lol… My reasons arn’t that I’d really prefer a girl over a boy, but it’s actually to avoid drama with my IL’s.

Its soooooooooo freakin ridiculous. I’m not a huge fan of my Father-In-Law….he’s kind of an asshole, and my Fiance first to admit this. Anyways long story short in his culture (italian) its tradition that a boy is named after the husbands father and a girl after the wifes mother. We are not doing this…. if it kills me. I have several reasons why I dont want his fathers name on top of the fact I dont really like him and I dont wanna have to call my child that name every single day…. but he’s causing serious drama over it, like legit. The week of our wedding he tried to get all these people from their family to say things to us/me and it was even brought up in our FREAKIN wedding speeches.

anyways, I’ve had enough….he’s a spoiled manchild and I’m not letting his tantrums allow him to get his way on this subject let me tell ya!! I dont mind if I have a boy second I just need a girl FIRST so I can set a precedent that we’re naming them what we want, and the crazyness of the “first grandchils” will be old news.

fyi: we already established he can have the middle name….but he says its not good enough because it “means nothing”. I told my DH if thats how he’s going to act i’ll strip that option away from him and give it my own father who would be tickled pink.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Personally, I do give some credit to the theories that you can better your chances at one gender or another. Of course it won’t work for everyone, but I think in our case it did.

We didn’t purposely do so, but this is our story:

DH comes from a family of boys. He has a brother. His dad has 3 brothers. All his cousins (on his dad’s side) are boys. We just kinda figured we’d be expecting a boy when we got pregnant.

However, when we got pregnant, it was a bit of a surprise. We had sex once, 5 days before I ovulated (I was charting/ temping so knew exact dates of everything).

I kind of hoped in the back of my mind that I would get a girl, but was happy either way.

We were shocked (and honestly didn’t really believe it) when our ultrasound said we were carrying a little girl!

So my DD is the first girl in DH’s family in 87 years. She’s a very special little one, indeed 🙂

 

There are so many theories and methods and diets out there. If you seriously want to try for a girl, look some of it up. There are forums dedicated to gender swaying. Even if it doesn’t result in a girl, I know you won’t love your son any less..and you can say you at least tried!

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

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@urchin:  Same thing — did the deed five days before O but we had a boy!

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@daybyday:  Ahh! Proof that Shettles isn’t always correct!

 

…if we have more kids, I am interested in seeing if they’ll be more girls.. lol!

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I really wanted a girl.  I was nervous to find out the sex because I was afraid I’d be disappointed if it was a boy, and that I’d hate myself for feeling that way.

… I had a boy.  And you know what?  There wasn’t even an ounce of disappointment when we found out.  In that instant, it just felt right.  My son is 6.5 months old now, and he’s my world.  Now I feel like if we have another baby I 100% want another son.

I wouldn’t try to influence it, though.  I now know I’d be happy either way!

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Kate0558:  We want boys.  Mainly because I remember what a smart mouth I had as a teenager and I don’t think I would make it through rearing a girl without getting arrested.  I will probably alter my diet and try the Shettle’s method for our first baby and we will see how it goes.  I certainly know it isn’t all that reliable but I figure it can’t hurt. 

However, if we have trouble concieivng at first, I will dump that and just have lots of sex around and during ovulation.

I act dramatic about it but I would survive a girl.  I turned out pretty great, after all.  I would at least know how to handle it since I am the master of the smart mouth (or was at 16 anyway).  And little bows and frilly drawers are kinda cute. 

I’ll just be thrilled to finally be a mom.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m one of three girls and my husband is one of three boys…so it should be interesting to see what we have first! I would absolutely be happy either way, but I secretly kind of want a little girl as out first…although on the other hand, if I have to have three of only one gender, I would rather have all boys, so I’d be a little nervous if we had a girl first that that’s all we’d have. 

At the end of the day. I really hope I don’t care one way or another. I don’t know that we are going to find out in advance, but I’ve made my husband promise that if either of us got to a point where we THINK we’d be disappointed at the birth if it was one gender over another that we would find out in advance. I can’t imagine going through all of the birth only to see a disappointed reaction from my husband if it was the gender he didn’t want, so would want time to prepare! 

Post # 25
Hostess
11163 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@Kate0558:  Shettles Method.

We originally intended to stick to the Shettles Method to concieve a girl but after learning that it can take longer to concieve with this method we decided against it. If you are okay waiting potentially a year or more than try it out.

The Shettles Method involves sexual positions (shallow, missionary for a girl), cannot have sex within the two day window of ovulation, certain foods are off limits and no orgasm for you(sorry!).

My DH comes from a long line of boys and his brother has two sons. The chances of us having a boy are high but I would rather have a baby now than wait and keep trying for a girl.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Kate0558: I felt like I could have written your original post. Really want a girl and so does my husband. We want two kids, and I would just love to have a girl first so that it wouldn’t be so much pressure on the second pregnancy (right now it feels like I would die with two boys). I’m sure things change once you have your baby, but now when we’re in the trying state (first month of it) we’re definitely focusing the TTC before ovulation.

Good luck to your and your husband, I hope you get the little girl you want (and I know… every single person we know is getting girls… so it feels like we’ll end up with a boy for sure)!

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We aren’t TTC yet, but we will be soon, and we want to try for 2.  Ideally, a boy and a girl.  DH really wants a boy first (he was the big protective brother of his 2 little sisters).  He claims he’s “had a talk with the troops, and we’ll have a boy first.”  His dad had 1 boy (DH) and 2 girls, and his dad’s brother only had 1 boy.  His grandfather had 2 boys and 1 girl, so there’s no “trend” to see if a specific gender run in the family.

Being a scientist, I can put some stock in this theory in the OP…and we’ve heard it before.  We plan to just let it happen.  I really want at least one little girl though! 🙂 

Post # 29
Hostess
11163 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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@Kate0558:  Yeah there is a whole science behind it. Orgasms for women present a certain acidity within the cervix that is boy sperm friendly but it is detrimental to girl sperm. The shallow penetration gives the girl sperm a fighthing chance as boy sperm is faster but less resilient. The food is another way to encourage the acidity in your body to be more beneficial to the girl sperm as well.

In other words yeah it is pretty complex if you really get into it, which we did for one cycle. This time around I avoided orgasm, rellied on the shallow position and ate the “girl sperm” diet but we did not take the timing of BDing in mind.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yeah….the first couple of months we were TTC I tried the shettles method…and then gave up and just tried for any gender…now almost a year later we are still not pregnant and I would be so grateful for a healthy baby, ANY gender. I think you really can’t plan things like this.

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I was in the first cycle after a MC, bleeding stopped one day before I O’D. It had been a while and I didn’t know I was going to o so soon. Well we DTD O-1 and O and I’m now pregnant with a girl. I don’t believe the shettles method and there is actually a lot of evidence that shows it might be the opposite.

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