Post # 17
As far as how far out the wedding is really isn’t a issue. Why wait until the last min? As of now she can be looking for bm dresses (which she could get their help with but really she want, to many differnt opinions). Help her with simple decision pertaining to the wedding. What she is wanting is a friend to partake in this experience with her and she isn’t getting that. Come on Ladies we all know the men isn’t that interested in planning a wedding, their is where the bride support system comes in at, and she is feeling like she have none.
Post # 18
What exactly do you need help with?
Post # 19
@jbbs1222: I have had a lot of the same stuff with my MOH’s (who are my sisters!!!) and bridesmaids! Sorry, it kinda stinks. I have found that if you make it sound fun rather than stressful it can help get them involved sometimes!
Post # 20
i feel the same,i dont understand why brides to be who weddings are a year or so away complain no one is helping or excited.no one should be,its a year away.geez,i didnt need help until a month or 2 before the wedding and i would do it myself if my MOH’s didnt offer to help,she and my daughter were the only ones who offered to help out of 5 of them.no big deal because its my wedding not theirs.however i am on the side that i feel bridesmaids should offer and should do what they are able to help with.
Post # 21
@jbbs1222: You’ve got a long time to get the small stuff done.
Given the amount of help you expect and have been given, you’d be very wise to cut back on expectations, both of yourself and of your bridal party.
Just enjoy the day and let it be about being with people you love. The majority of things that posters on this website seem to fuss about are just not necessary to the day. Hire a venue and a caterer and let them do their job.Between the two of them they will likely be able to pull it all off.
Choose a pretty and simple dress that doesn’t need a lot of alterations, accessories, etc and keep your hair and makeup simple.
Let “simplicity” be your guide rather than getting ramped up abotu all of the things that ‘zillas seem to become emotionally invested in.
You;ll have a better time.
Post # 22
The only reason that i’m annoyed with my FSIL not helping out is because SHE was the one who said she would help with stuff (and she was super specific about helping with invites, favours, etc)….
But what can you do?
It’s your wedding, you have to do the work…
Post # 23
@jbbs1222: When Fiance and I got engaged he told me, in a hilariously adorable way (trust me!) that he had no intention of doing any work for the wedding. Luckily I enjoy looking at all the planning sites and saving photos of centerpieces and pricing venues and ok, I spend way too much time on weddingbee, but I dig it, it’s my thing. That being said I elected to forego a lot of the DIY projects I thought would be cute because I knew I’d be on my own, I don’t want to make slaves of my BMs and Fiance has a quirky habit of sucking at any task he doesn’t want to do…I’ve never seen a man cut a tomato so poorly…but I digress. I vote nixing the unnecessary elements of planning that are causing you stress and focusing on what you really need. Good luck!!!
Post # 24
@hillsab03: There is a massive difference between seeking people to share your “experience” and saying you’re about to flip your shit because your friends aren’t helping. Bridesmaid dresses take what, a day to pick out? If someone is already turning into a “bridezilla” a YEAR before their wedding, I can’t say I blame the others for not wanting to help.