(Closed) Trying Not To Be Annoyed – Last Minute Cancellations

posted 6 years ago in January 2013
Post # 3
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4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@RunningGal:  SYMPATHY!

Friday Future Mother-In-Law called me to tell me that FI’s bitchy aunt, husband and 4 young chidlren will not be attending because they JUST realized the ceremony starts too late (6:30pm).  And they have to travel, both things I understand but a)You’ve had the invite for 2 months and b) This is your nephew getting married!

To add to it, aunt didn’t even tell Future Mother-In-Law this, she told grandma, who told Future Mother-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law waited wondering if Aunt was going to tell and man up about their decision, no call so finally Future Mother-In-Law text Aunt and Aunt confirmed they are not coming.  I honestly think that they were just not going to show without telling anyone.

So I’m down an ENTIRE TABLE.  Luckily Future Mother-In-Law called on the day I had to get our numbers to the vendor so we were able to not lose money on the guest count.

PLUS half my office is out with the flu so I wonder how many of my guests will be sick and unable to attend. ๐Ÿ™

Boooo!

Post # 4
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660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I feel you, we had some last minute cancellations and even day of no shows. Just breathe and let it go. Believe me I understand the frustration. With the now shows we spent easily an extra $1,000 … ugh! Is there someone you can invite that woldnt be iffended to receive a last minute invite yo could invite? 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It really is annoying, and really frustrating, but not rude.   They let you know they couldnt come as opposed to not coming. It is their perogative to RSVP No, even if it started as a Yes.  Inconvenient and annoying is not equivalent to rude.

He may not want to go without his wife, which is not an uncommon feeling if they dont really know many people.

As for her work. It may or may not be true. And for the real reason they you assume they are not coming, its annoying, but its their reason and they really do not have to provide a reason. They did RSVP which is what they are required to do by ettituite. I wouldnt want to ride with people I didnt really know either (assuming since he is a coworker and the rides are simply friends)

Since you have a few days you could try contacting your caterer to see if you can deduct two people, they may still let you. You dont know until you ask. 

And unless it left only 4 people at a table, I would leave the arrangements. 5-6 people at a table is fine. 

Post # 6
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I totally hear where you are coming from! The same thing happened to me.. we paid $160/head for 4 people who cancelled last minute.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@RunningGal:  +1 about them indicating yes on the RSVP and then changing their mind so soon before.  SO ANNOYING!

Post # 10
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761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@RunningGal:  Last minute cancellations will probably be the most annoying thing that happens to any bride.  I feel for you.  Know that we all go/went through it and felt equally as frustrated as you feel!

Try to enjoy the rest of the week as you prepare for your big day!!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@RunningGal:  I have had 9 PEOPLE cancel in the last 2 days… NINE!!! It is incredible how inconsiderate people are. Not one of them has a good excuse, or at least gave me a good excuse. I have tried to fill a couple of those seats but it totally is frustrating knowing how much each one of those seats cost ๐Ÿ™

Post # 12
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546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I have had 5 cancel this week. One older couple the wife has pneumonia and one couple have a very sick grandfather. One has a school project. Really I think husband found out his brother was coming sans wife and he wanted to as well. It is annoying. All the shuffling and such. I had final count due by the 9th but can make changes until 48 hours before so no lost money. Hang in there. Its almost time to celebrate! Today was my last day of work. Woohoo!

Post # 13
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546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I have had 5 cancel this week. One older couple the wife has pneumonia and one couple have a very sick grandfather. One has a school project. Really I think husband found out his brother was coming sans wife and he wanted to as well. It is annoying. All the shuffling and such. I had final count due by the 9th but can make changes until 48 hours before so no lost money. Hang in there. Its almost time to celebrate! Today was my last day of work. Woohoo!

Post # 14
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476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

SO glad we’re doing heavy hors d’oeuvres/buffet and I’m not doing a seating plan. WAY too much trouble and money for me to have to play with right now!!!

We still have people hokey-pokeying. “I’m coming”. “Now, I can’t”. “My fiance’ booked a gig on Saturday, so I’m coming alone”. Fiance’s aunt/uncle have the flu, so they won’t make it now–and I’m OK with that!  They’re sick!  I’m wondering how many we had RSVP yes who won’t come at all. And don’t get me started on the ones who didn’t RSVP at ALL and my Future Mother-In-Law had to hunt down- she had half of the guest list- and we don’t know them because they’re family and friends of hers from church or Fiance’s stepfather.  She asked Sunday if she could invite someone’s 90 year old mother (and we don’t know the son, much less the mother)…I just replied that we had already turned in all of our numbers. NO MORE. STOP THE INSANITY! At this rate, we will spend our entire reception meeting people who came to our wedding, rather than enjoying the company of our family and friends who we WANT to be there.

Deep breath, friends. We will make it through this yet!

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Saturday we had at least 12 no shows. Don’t worry about it.  If something happens your coordinator or bridesmaids will punt.  If there is extra food have them pack it up and send it home with you. It will cheer you up to have a second wedding dinner in a couple days when the stress has worn off and you’re a little bummed that it’s all over.

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