(Closed) Trying Not to be Disappointed…(long vent)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

i think you might be reading too much into this. If she allows you to come, the her FI’s closest friend should be allowed to come, and he wants to bring his wife. And if they come then they have to invite her cousin, etc. Small, immediate family only means just that. They may have drawn a hard line about inviting people, and though she loves you very much, she and her Fiance agreed on immediate family only.  She invited you to the reception, so it is not like she is snubbing you.  Ive read several threads on this board about women planning very small ceremonies and dealing with the outfall of offended people.

Post # 4
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I can feel your disappointment!  I had two friends that had a committment ceremony and asked me if I didn’t mind skipping the ceremony so that I could be at the house when the caterer!  I was sooooo hurt!  I finally called back and said “I will do what ever you want me to do but I am very sad to miss your ceremony!”  They changed their minds and I attended.  But in this case they only could have 15 people in the place the ceremony was being held.  Your friend might have a limit on the number of attendees and maybe that’s why they are limiting to family only. 

So sorry!  But keep in mind that most people won’t be attending so it’s no just you!

Post # 5
1490 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

At city hall, ceremonies are really *very* intimate and I wouldn’t view your friend’s response as a slight. San Francisco’s city hall, for instance, limits the number of guests to six – for a lot of people that doesn’t really even allow for their immediate families. Be happy that she wants you to celebrate with them at the reception – that’s an honor too :-).

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