(Closed) Trying not to be selfish… halpppp

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Where should I stay the night before the wedding?
    Stay with your fiance in your apartment- you deserve to feel as comfortable as possible : (35 votes)
    64 %
    Quit being selfish- arrange yourselves so that the bridal party can stay in your apartment : (9 votes)
    16 %
    Suck it up and pay for 1 room at the hotel for that night : (10 votes)
    18 %
    other- please share! : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Why can’t you and your Fiance sleep in your bed on Friday night and all the BMs sleep on the floor in the family room on that night?

    I must admit though that I had a ton of people staying at my house before the wedding and it was really hard on me. It stressed me out and I hated seeing people sleep on the floor when I couldn’t provide beds for them. It also meant a lot of cleaning and extra cooking. I had offered to pay for hotels but none of them wanted that.

    Post # 4
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Absolutely stay with your Fiance in your bed.

    If I am travelling to an out-of-town wedding, I expect to pay for a hotel room.  I would never expect (or want) the bride and groom to make their lives difficult so I could use their bed.

    Post # 5
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I would advise against having anyone bunk with you the night before if you’re staying in your apartment with your Fiance. Darling Husband and I stayed together the night before in our bridal suite and it was soooo nice to have that extra time to spend together without any interruptions. The morning of is going to be stressful enough so having extra people in your space when you’re trying to shower and prep for the day (even before doing any actual wedding prep) may prove to be an issue. 

    Could your Bridal Party members just share a hotel room (get 2 fulls/queens instead of just one bed)? I personally don’t think $110 is very much for a hotel room and splitting that is even cheaper. It seems like everyone would be more comfortable that way. 

    Post # 8
    9690 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My vote is this:  You are not being selfish.  It is your wedding and if you and your Fiance would like to stay home together, by all means – DO. 

    The others involved are ADULTS.  They don’t need to be taken care of, they can figure out their own arrangements.

    It wouldn’t even enter my (selfish) mind to be so worried about other people’s arrangements.  You will definitely need to have had a good night’s sleep the night before your wedding, to look and feel your best.

    You only get one wedding!  (Hopefully, lol).  Make it the best for yourself you can.  The other people involved will be just FINE.


    Edit:  I also agree that those prices seem dirt cheap for hotel rooms to me.  I’d be delighted to pay that as your guest or wedding party.

    Post # 9
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    When I go to an out of town wedding I expect to figure out my own accomodations. I’d just stay at your place like you want to and let them make their own arrangements.

    Also, you just don’t tell the hotel about the extra people.

    Post # 10
    14500 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @September29:  Is it a big hotel?  Just dont tell them there are that many people if you are willing to sleep on the floor and not have to ask for a rollaway.  Otherwise,its only 10-20 a night split over 4 people?  That’s not bad.  Are they tight on money?  Just being cheap?  If the first, I’d just go stay at my parents house.  (I had to stay at my parents house the night before – superstitions).  That’s just personal choice though, I wouldnt care and dont really care about that *one* night with him if it’d help some stuggling friends out, I have the rest of my life to share my bed with him.

    Post # 11
    3471 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    Can the bridemaids stay with her parents, and the boyfriend crash on your guy’s couch? 

    Post # 12
    192 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - ceremony at a gazebo outside, reception at neighboring restaurant on a lake

    @Mrs.KMM:  My thoughts exactly!!

    Post # 13
    2395 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    My thoughts are grown adults should be able to figure out their own accomodations.  I would never ever expect someone to figure out where I was staying, regardless if I was in a bridal party.  If you want to stay w/ your Fiance, then do so!

    Post # 14
    778 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Could you and your Fiance stay at your parents’ house and let the wedding party stay in your apartment? Or would your parents be willing to host the single bridesmaid so that the other bridesmaid and her Boyfriend or Best Friend could have a hotel room to themselves? Paying for one night in a hotel room really isn’t that bad–I think it’s very nice of you to let them stay in your apartment on the wedding night.

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