Post # 1
It’s hard not to take it personally when people respond no. So far out of about 40 RSVPs we’ve only had 2 nos. Not bad. But I’m kind of upset about the nos for my shower. My Maid/Matron of Honor is putting a lot of work into it. We’re keeping it small so I really had to think about my guest list. Well out of 20 invites (and only 10 responded so far) there are 6 nos. 🙁
It’s just sucky. I know people have lives but still…
anyone take this to heart or just me?
Post # 3
Sorry, I know that with all the understanding in the world, it still hurts. Maybe you can add a few to your guest list.
Post # 4
I’m sorry 🙁 I felt the same way when I would receive RSVPs back that said no. I think we invited 130 people and actually had 85 in attendance. Considering it was an in-town wedding, I was expecting more people to come. At the end of the day though, our wedding was small and lovely, so it all worked out.
Post # 5
Well, you’re doing pretty well on the wedding RSVPs! As for the shower, don’t take it personally. I have to admit, I’m not a big fan of wedding or baby showers – actually, I dread them – so if I can avoid going, I do. Of course I would attend for my very closest friends and my sisters, but otherwise I’d rather skip it. It’s nothing personal against the bride or mom!
Post # 6
I know, now I feel bad about the wedding/baby showers I didn’t go to in the past!
Post # 7
I know how you feel. My family was terrible about it. Granted they had to drive, but I had to drive for theirs too… And I figured it was something you do when you’re close. Guess we aren’t… Good to know for the cousins who are left. 🙂 “Want to go?” “Send a card!”
Oh, and my husband’s friends. The only ones that showed up, I think only showed because they were asked to be groomsmen. That was kind of offensive too… Now they’re all engaged to be married this year, and we are considering not even sending cards because they couldn’t even bother to RSVP back…. Ah, but you know we will. And it will have cash in it. Stupid being the bigger person. 🙂
PS: If any of you brides are said friends, I’m sorry for being mean… Just venting! Being engaged was a frustrating time, and I’m still getting over the lack of support, lol.
Post # 8
I am terrified of this happening. :/ I’m so sorry, but just know your wedding will be amazing no matter who says “no”
Post # 9
I’m actually hoping for some nos from certain people that i feel pressured to invite, besides i’m having a hard time cutting down my guest list. But i would definitely feel down if someone i really wanted to be there said no
Post # 10
It must be discouraging. I haven’t even gotten to showers or wedding RSVP’s. I was invited to a friend’s shower last year. It was in a city about 2 hours away from me. And since my fiance is long distance… I wasn’t about to spend my entire weekend with her instead of my fiance. At that point it had been a really long time since we’d seen each other and I didn’t want to go to the shower. I begged him to go to the city that weekend (because he has friends there too) but it didn’t work out. So I went to visit him instead. I’m sorry but it’s just too hard to travel so much for a shower when I’ll be coming to the wedding.
We’ll see if I feel the same way when my shower comes though. Boo 🙁