Trying not to get too excited or anxious…

posted 10 months ago in Waiting
Post # 32
Member
981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

WasabiWithYou :  Thinking of you as you head into the weekend πŸ™‚ Hope it finally happens so you can breathe <3

Post # 34
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981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

WasabiWithYou :  Yay! Thats an awesome update πŸ™‚

I can totally relate. we have been looking at venues but still waiting on the ring to arrive so Im trying to wait to do anything officially “official”

We looked at 2 venues in Sept but he wanted to save some money and buy the ring so asked to put things on hold. It was early so I was fine with that. Now that the ring is being made im getting anxious LOL

Post # 36
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4035 posts
Honey bee

I don’t get this at all – why the hell do men buy a ring only to stash it away for some hypothetical perfect time? It’s like a slow form of torture. The fact is it would be a hell of a lot more meaningful if he couldn’t wait to get engaged to you and did it in the first few days. Waiting and waiting for a totally artificial non- surprising choreographed ritual in a perfect setting is just irritating and I would start to wonder whether the guy was worth it. Theres absolutely nothing special about being made to wait for an indeterminate time period for a proposal. It’s asking a question, not shooting a $70 million film.

Post # 37
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4035 posts
Honey bee

beejaymes :  This is very sad and pathetic. I’m sorry you feel that someone who’s willing to disappoint you over and over and obviously doesn’t want to marry you is the best you can do. Your self-esteem must be nonexistant.

Post # 38
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46 posts
Newbee

sunburn :  woah, harsh much? Your name is quite fitting, I feel that burn in my soul. 

Post # 39
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116 posts
Blushing bee

I read all the posts and updates so that I’m caught up πŸ™‚ I’m happy for you both that you were able to have such a positive and mature conversation about your timeframe. I’m really looking forward to your update and hearing how the tour goes! I recently made a post as I am waiting for my proposal as well and my boyfriend has been taking his sweet time πŸ™‚ I do think part of it for him too was not realizing the difficulties with booking venues in our area and that you really need a year. After NYE he had told me that he plans to propose between the end of the summer or early fall. I know that he’s so caught up in it being a romantic surprise and since he has been so understanding and talked through our timetable, I felt like I could exhale and not take the date so seriously. I was originally hoping for a May 2020 wedding. I’ll still call venues and see if they’re available and try to plan it in 7-9 months, but I’m gonna try not to put too much pressure on it. The wait is just so hard. Especially when “early fall” could be another 9 months from now! Our anniversary is in March so I’m wondering if he’s trying to throw me off, but doubtful. We have looked at rings and my gut tells me he has it. Just trying to be a patient bee :p

Post # 40
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4035 posts
Honey bee

beejaymes :  what you call harsh, I call honesty. I think that it is much more harmful and unkind to encourage someone to stay in a relationship where the man has weasled out of timelines and shows no inclination over a period of years to change. 

I recommend spf100 sunscreen for your soul. 

Post # 42
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4035 posts
Honey bee

 WasabiWithYou :  I’m glad you found someone to take your anger out on. Have a good day.

Post # 44
Hostess
8492 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

WasabiWithYou :   sunburn :  I can’t seem to send DM’s currently so please both be warned to keep this civil and not violate the TOS or I will be forced to close the thread.

Post # 45
Hostess
8492 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

WasabiWithYou :   sunburn :  I can’t seem to send DM’s currently so please both be warned to keep this civil and not violate the TOS or I will be forced to close the thread.

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