Trying not to get too excited or anxious…

posted 10 months ago in Waiting
Post # 61
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Blushing bee

Ugh I’m so frustrated for you!  What kind of mind games is he playing?!  It’s great he’s on board with looking into venues since that was a big deal for you as far as the time pressure.  Let us know how that goes!  If he starts dragging his feet about putting money down for a deposit for a certain date I might worry this is all a stall tactic.  But hopefully that’s not the case and the real proposal is coming soon!

Post # 62
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Bee my heart is breaking for you! I just read through this whole thread hoping to see a happy ending. If it were me I’d completely stop all wedding talk in the home. Sorry sir, you don’t get to hypothesize our wedding if we aren’t engaged. No venu visits, nothing. 

The best suggestion I can make is to try to forgive him and forget about the pending proposal. I understand the urgency with the timeline considering the desire for kiddos, but there are so many resources on putting together a quicky wedding that rushing things is seemingly doing more harm than good. 

Best of luck, it’s only a matter of time. He probably feels even worse than you do. A proposal is for both of you, and bless his heart, he wanted it to be special and now it’s kind of blown up in his face. Show him lots of love and he’ll be down on one knee before you know it. 

We are here for you!

Post # 63
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

Bee I’m sorry this must be frustrating! 

Post # 64
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Busy bee

I suppose I’m in the minority here, but I’d advise you to relax a bit. If he is willing to settle on a venue and enter into concrete planning you ARE engaged. He isn’t dragging his feet. The proposal is just being treated as a separate celebration he wants to stage manage. You were worried about venue dates and he … answered that concern by agreeing to go ahead with venues. So what is your current worry (and as somebody who didn’t want a ring so didn’t get married with one I assure you venues at least in the east coast where it sounds like you are don’t ask to see your ring. Not a one ever appeared to note that I never had one and we visited dozens in several east coast states….)

Post # 65
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Blushing bee

Did you guys go to look at the venue?

How did it go?

Post # 66
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Checking in on you…!

Post # 67
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Blushing bee

We’re thinking of you!

Post # 71
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!  YAY!!!! SOOOO HAPPY FOR YOU <3

Sounds like the BEST possible resolution to this and he seems like a keeper for sure!

I think Ive said before, but LOVE your ring. So beautiful and great picture of you two!

Post # 72
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

WasabiWithYou :  SO HAPPY FOR YOU! I’ve been silently following along lol. Beautiful ring! Congratulations! 🙂

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Congrats bee! I’m so happy for you!!!

Post # 74
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Congratulations! So happy for you! Beautiful ring! 

Post # 75
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Super cute! Glad it worked out 🙂

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