Post # 1
Hi Ladies! I don’t consider myself obsessed with receiving a proposal, but my SO and I have spoken about our timeline and he made it clear that it will happen at some point within the year, probably in the next six months. I didn’t want to ask for anything more specific than that because I don’t want him to feel pressured and I also want it to be a bit of surprise. I don’t care when it happens, I just wanted to know that it was going to happen!
That being said, it’s impossible for me not to overanalyze every situation now and question whether this is going to be it! I don’t get disappointed when a situation passes without a proposal, because that means I get to be excited for it for longer, but I have to say it is anxiety producing. We are about to go on a trip to Disneyland with my SO’s parents, and this is the first “major” event since our timeline conversation. I am now overanalyzing everything he says and does and wondering if this is it. For instance, we started researching venues since we have no clue what we want, and I am an indecisive overplanner. My SO is interested in a Disneyland wedding, and so I was showing him what a Disney bride had to say about her choice: that since her SO and she took their first vacation there, and she was proposed to there, it only made sense that they get married there. He said “it sounds like you could have written that!” Yeah, except only the first of those three items applies to me. UNLESS…
I know he has a family ring he’d been planning on proposing with. He felt me out about talking to my dad, and my dad is coming to visit for Thanksgiving right before we leave for our trip. When I asked my SO what he was most excited for about our trip, he said “being there, in love, with you!” (my answer was Space Mountain… oops). On the other hand, we’re going with his parents, so it’s not exactly like there’s going to be an abundance of romantic, intimate moments.
So c’mon guys, help ground me! Am I being realistic? How do you put this from your mind when you know everything is in place?
Post # 3
@MadameX: “How do you put this from your mind when you know everything is in place?” ….. IT’S SO HARD!!!! I really have no advice for you, other than to TRY not to get your hopes up every time it seems like there is an opportunity for him to pop the question, because there will be SO many of them, and you don’t want to be disappointed through all of these wonderful memories! Just enjoy your last few months as a girlfriend, because you’ll be a fiancee before you know it 🙂
Post # 4
I’m in the same place! My SO and I have decided on a rough wedding date, and we are also working on an engagement timeline for “next year” (probably in 4 to 8 months)
I’m also not anxious (heck, it isn’t even to the point yet where he could be asking) but I am SO EXCITED my eyes are bugging out practically. I haven’t had any disappointments yet, but I have to say I know I will get wildly excited every time sometime it COULD happen…happens.
I am really enjoying the waiting bit – like you – I get to be excited for it longer if it doesn’t happen, and I’m really not worried about it not happening at all.
I have no tips for you, but I find that a good session on here always brings me back to earth – people give good advice about not expecting it and staying in the moment.
Post # 5
@PermaStudent: I wouldn’t say I’m “getting my hopes up” because that implies disappointment when it doesn’t happen… But I guess I feel like I am having trouble staying in the moment and being excited for the events themselves, and I just end up daydreaming about possible proposal situations! You’re right, it’s hard!
@CaroBee: Sounds like we are in the same boat! I see lots of people on here who are disappointed when it doesn’t happen, or bitter that they’ve waited so long… I know it’s going to happen so I am not particularly concerned about that part, it’s just hard not to be obsessive over the possibilities when you know it is coming, but your time frame for “when” is so large! I wouldn’t be thinking about it so much if I knew for sure it wasn’t a possibility.