(Closed) Trying not to talk about 'babies' around husband

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@lucyh2bee:  <– This is basically me! We are TTC and my husband has made it clear he wants it to be relaxed not planned and I am slowly loosing my mind!!!! I want to talk to him about everything and its so hard not to! Hence why I am on here all day chatting to you ladies! 

If he saw everything I saying on here he would probably run a mile! Luckily we are married now so it would be considerably more difficult for him to do so, but still!

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@lucyh2bee:  hahah 🙂 Yes we do! When I came of the pill my husband basically thought if he looked at me I might fall pregnant! To be fair I was his first Girlfriend so unless I explained female biology to him, no one would have! 

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have baby fever bad and talk plenty about babies / TTC / the type of birth I want / cloth diapers / etc…. hubby humors me, even though we are not TTC for another few months. I try not to drive him too crazy though and just stalk out baby stuff online and forums like this 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@lucyh2bee:  Exactly the same about going from Double Dutching to just pills, he couldnt get over it! To be fair, I have never explained much to him… When he agreed to TTC he said how he didnt like the idea of having sex while I was on my period?! Thats right, he thought you could only get pregnant while I was in full blown AF time?! 
 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m kind of in the same boat. We are getting married next month, I’m 34 and have the fever.  We are preventing pregnancy.  I used to bug him about when we will start a family and while he wants to be a dad someday, the idea freaks him out.  I think it’s mostly financial.  So back in January I told myself I wouldn’t talk to him about it until next year.  Every once in a while I will slip and say something baby-related, like tell him a really cute baby-related thing I saw but I’ve taken the pressure off.  I really hope come January he will be cool with pulling the goalie and NTNT.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

I know how you feel.  Except, my Darling Husband is a little more extreme.  We’ve agreed to wait at least five years to even start TTC.  But, I am starting to look at things now and he completely freaks out! 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@lucyh2bee:  No dear, its just time has actually passed and we are closer to that date now.

I’m cracking up here. I have a feeling someone I know will react in a similar fashion.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Both Darling Husband and I are terrified to have kids, but we both want them eventually.  My twin sister, however, has been married for 4.5 years and just had her first baby in June.  So, although its weird to have her be in such a different stage of life, it’s actually kind of cool because a) it’s giving Darling Husband and I more exposure to a baby than we’ve ever had before, and b) it gives me a reason to research or ask her things that I will need to know in the future. 

It also helps that it’s all she wants to talk about too, so I have someone to discuss it with.  So only some of my chattiness about babies is unloaded on Darling Husband.  I am trying to steer clear of letting him know the time table I sort of have in my head… which includes possibly going off the pill towards the end of next year.  No need to freak him out yet!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh crazy baby talk… Darling Husband doesnt help when he points out the cute little toddler walking by the shop window. As long as I dont mention Bee this and Bee that hes happy. We decided a long time ago to use cloth diapers but he didnt realize I ment fancy ones instead of the ones you fold and pin which we had back in the day. We have started deciding are hopeful birthplan (if Im healthy and so is baby) which now meens we have to move to have a child (no midwives for a 5 hour drive and they suck too from what Ive heard, where going to move out of province instead). Weve also started setting out a timeline which is really nice to have in mind. For now its back to debating what we want for an every day stroller since we will have a chariott (already own one for the company).

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@naturalysam:  You’re sort of in the opposite camp from the rest of us in this thread, whose SOs don’t want to hear the baby chatter in our brains. 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m so afraid of annoying Darling Husband with any baby talk, so I dont bring it up. When I do, he looks at me like I have 10 heads. We agreed on a timeline (just a loose one), so until it gets closer to that time I have been trying not to talk about it.

However, I will admit that I’ve been re-configuring the storage in our house so that if we ever need to turn my office into a baby’s room, I can move all my crafting into the newly redone storage in the loft closet. He doesnt understand why I keep re-organizing, but whatever. I tell myself I’m “nesting” and I wont want to do this when I”m pregnant!

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