(Closed) Trying on Dresses (Anxiety)

posted 7 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Keep in mind, they are working for you.  Go in there with an idea of what you like and don’t like, and see what they come up with. 

Most of all, HAVE FUN! … and wear nice underwear.  Smile

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You’ll do great!  Trust me, you’ll find dresses you will like!  Post pics if you can remember to take them.  We’d love to see!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You will find something!  I had the same anxiety/fear when I made my appointment at David’s Bridal.  There was only one dress they had to wrestle me into and clip to my bra, etc., because it didn’t fit.  Ironically, it was the only one I had REALLY wanted to try on. 

I made sure to go on a Tuesday morning when they were dead slow, so I didn’t have to look at teensy girls, half my size and do the inevitable comparisons.  One thing I hated about DB (that I don’t think is an issue with most smaller salons) is that there are mirrors literally EVERYWHERE.  I would start to feel good about myself and then catch this horrific, fun-house/distorted looking angle in another mirror.

Just try to remember that on your wedding day, you’ll be all done up and everyone will be looking at your radiant beaming face, your veil, your flowers, the overall “you”… they won’t be zeroing in on flaws the way we do to ourselves.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

You will find something that looks good on your body!!  Do you have any favorite dresses?  Think about what makes them look good on you, and look for similar wedding dresses. 

For example, I look good with full skirts with rouching at the waist.  Those types of dresses typically looked great on me.  I avoided hip hugging and mermaid types of dresses because I knew they would make me look like a stuffed sausage.

You’re going to look beautiful.  🙂  Don’t worry – just relax and enjoy the experience!!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wear make-up and bring some good undergarments (Spanx, girdle, etc.).  It made a difference when I went shopping the 2nd time.  The 1st time, my hair was a mess, no make-up so when I tried on dresses (even the ones that fit) everything looked terrible to me.  The following week I tried again but went a little more done up and it made a difference mentally.  I was much more excited to try on dresses.  Good luck!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I had the exact same issue when I went out dress shopping I am a size 22-24 in “real life” and I was a little worried to be around all the “skinny” girls who in my head look radiant in everything (hahaha skinny envy anyone??) so I went dress shopping on a Monday morning!! So quiet I had the 2 assistants to myself and they laced my into 4 separate dresses and honestly they were all beautiful on even thou they were only size 20-22, it didn’t matter corset backs are a big girls best friend. From this trip I think I have found my dress thou I am still doing the one other shop with PS I have found to make sure hahaha… I think it is normal to be anxious… But seriously the assistants are good at their jobs and they will find the dresses that will make you look in the mirror and see a beautiful bride looking back… Hell I made my tough mum all teary so I think I can say they looked good hehehe By The Way one was soooo not good on me but all that did was make me now know lower waists soooo not good on me 🙂

 

Enjoy it will be a fun experience in the end… And don’t be scared to try on something unexpected asit may be the ONE!!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Cheeks923: You will find a beautiful dress and there will be no worries. I was scared to try on dress and I ended up having a ball when I went. If you go with people, go with positive people..Its better that way

GOOD LUCK AND HUGS TO YOU

 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

          You will find something you love! Just keep in mind I believe when it comes to fashion it is strictly body shape and silhouette. Everyone has a shape that compliments their shape best (mermaid, sheath, fit and flare, etc.) Just try them all on and I can promise you, you will find a silhouette that looks stunning on you. 

          Trust your consultants and have fun with it! I agree with chrispygal, take pictures if you can. 

          It is always easier to look back at a picture and see what characteristics you loved and didn’t love so much about the dress.


          Good luck let us know how it goes, you are going to do awesome!!!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Cheeks923: Have Fun!!!!  Can’t wait to see the pics :)- make a poll so we can vote on our favorite styles!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I felt the same way when I went– I had an amazing experience in one in particular that made me cry, and then ………………..I went home and looked at pictures.

 

My advice to you is set the pictures aside. Rank the dresses mentally, get rid of the ones that are “not it”, and decide which ones you’d like to try on again. Do some research and see if they carry any others you might be interested in. Schedule an appointment, ask to try on the “maybe” dresses again, and see how you react the next time around. You will find your dress, don’t worry. It is an emotionall process, but once you make your selection, DO NOT keep looking and new dresses, and DO NOT keep looking at the pictures of the runners up. YOu will just drive yourself crazy with thoughts of “what if?”

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Okay, you have to remember something about those pictures, they are hastily taken without your being “brided” out. As in, no fancy hair, perfect make-up. And certainly they are not professional pictures.

In short, those pictures are not how you actually will look in your wedding photos, or in front of your guests.

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