(Closed) trying on dresses that I know I can’t afford = Bad idea???

posted 9 years ago in Dress
  • poll: would you go to the trunk show?
    Yeah! : (36 votes)
    51 %
    Nope : (34 votes)
    49 %
  • Post # 3
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    If you know you can’t afford it, don’t tempt yourself. If you fall in love with a dress outside of your budget and that will put you in debt, then everything else you find that you can afford will pale in comparison. 

    Post # 4
    1701 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    OK, I voted no. Because the last thing you want to do is fall in love with a dress you can’t buy!

    But then again, maybe you could try on a dress there to see what it looks like on you, and then find it somewhere else cheaper? Preowned, I mean.

    Post # 5
    7777 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Agree with the above. I voted no, too. I would be heartbroken if I fell in love and then couldn’t get it.

    Post # 6
    4566 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I…4th it? I can’t imagine finding a dress you’re in LOVE with, then not being able to get it. You’ll never be able to find one that compares and you’ll most likely always thing “what if?”

    Post # 7
    2561 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I wouldn’t do it … you are just setting yourself up for heartbreak … what if you CANT find a sample of pre-owned in your size and budget in the next year (it is a real possibility)?

    Post # 8
    97 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I actually did just this… And what i found is that the dress I loved on the models just didn’t work on me. I also hard core investigated finding dresses preowned. Worst case scenario you can have your dress custom made and it will be designed to fit you but in the gorgeous style you love…

    Also when my Maid/Matron of Honor and I went dress shopping I had her try on everything no matter the price. When we found the perfect dress I jotted down all the info (style #, color, size) and went home and busted out the good ole internet. We ended up gettering her dress for 10% of the original cost preowned on ebay! ๐Ÿ™‚

    So I say go fro it! ๐Ÿ™‚ Besides you still have a year and a half to fall in love with another dress… lol ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 9
    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Go for it!!! ๐Ÿ™‚ You only get to try on dresses once!!!

    Post # 10
    1408 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I am very much of a mixed opinion about this, although I voted Yeah!. I think its good to try on many different dresses, even ones out of your price range, because even if you can’t afford that particular dress, you may be able to find it elsewhere (ebay, preownedweddingdresses.com, craigslist, sample sale, etc.) actually in your budget. However, I also agree with most of the above girls that if you fall in love with a particular dress and are unable to find it cheaper elsewhere…then what? You’ll be upset with any other dress because it is not THE dress, ya know? But, if you are looking at very popular dress makers and are a typical or average size (most sites seem to have tons of dresses in the size 6-12 range, but fewer over or under that) you’ll probably end up finding the dress somewhere. The onlyt question is- will you find it in your price range? Even used dresses can go for $$$$ if they cost $$$$$$ in the first place!


    So….go for it! But just know that you may not be able to get whatever you fall in love with!

    Post # 11
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    It depends on how likely you are to get attached. I know that it would be a bad idea for me personally, because I tend to get super attached to stuff, then I’d be VERY upset when I had to walk away from it. But if you’re able to not stay too attached, then I’d say go for it.

    Post # 12
    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I could never do that… it would kill me! like Amanda said, I’m one of those people who gets attached to things, so i’d avoid at all costs. You also sound like you’re already attached, so maybe going might not be the best idea. Sorry, I know that’s not what you wanted to hear!

    Post # 13
    188 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    i say try on anything and try to find it used, as a sample sale, or buy as a copy from somewhere. the dresses i am in love with are waaayyy too much and i plan on doing one of those three things. just be prepared to look, and wait!

    Post # 14
    11 posts
    • Wedding: December 1977

    You can buy a preowned dress for probably 50% less, so that is definitely an option.  I think knowing exactly what you want is helpful and allows for comparison shopping.  Just don’t be pressured to buy anything before you do your research. Selling it afterwards is a way to recoup some of the expense, too.

    Post # 15
    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I vote no.  Personally, I would have been so disappointed to fall in love with a dress I wasn’t willing to spend a certain amount of money on.  Seems like lots of other dresses could potentially come close, but potentially have the same wow factor.  Yes, you COULD find it on a preowned site or a sample sale but I think it is just as likely you will not.

    Post # 16
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Um.. I would go. Unless you’re having a JOP wedding followed by wendy’s takeout afterwards. Your wedding is a year and a half away. If you fall in love with a gown and there’s any possiblity of selling you a sample, they’ll do it to make money. Also, you have time to save up if you love it that much. It’s your wedding – I say go for it!

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