Post # 1
I need your help on a somewhat sticky situation. I live about 9 hours from my grandparents, and I’ll be up visiting them over the Christmas/Boxing Day holidays. My grandma is beyond excited that I got engaged, and even called me to hear the whole story and talk about the wedding and my fiance. I’ve always been close to her, and I would love nothing more than to share some wedding experiences with her, especially since I don’t think she will be able to come to the wedding (they live in Ottawa, and don’t travel to the states anymore.)
My question is: is it totally wrong and in bad taste to make an appointment at a salon to try on dresses so I can share that experience with her? I don’t think I’d by in Canada, only because the taxes are higher than where I live, and I’d pick a salon that carried dresses I could find locally. It would mean so much to us to have her share a special moment of wedding planning, but I’m just not sure if it’s totally rude and bad form to go to a place just to try on, and not buy. I know plenty of brides don’t find a dress at the first salon they go to, but I figured I’d ask the community and get your input.
Thanks in advance for any words of advice!
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
I think it’s perfectly ok to do that. You’re going to get an idea of what you like. When I went dress shopping I found my dream dress at one shore but bought it at another because I liked their service better. It’s definitely alright to do that and I think your grandmother would love to share that experience with you. 🙂
Btw, I’m from Ottawa!
Post # 4
If you don’t have a dress, I don’t see anything wrong with it. You’re trying to get ideas of what style you want, what styles look nice, what details you dislike… and as you said, most people understand that Rogers first dress shopping experience is just for testing the water, especially bridal consultants. I don’t see anything wrong with it.
Post # 5
I don’t think even a salesperson would mind if you fessed up to this in the appointment. If you don’t have a dress they always still have a chance to seal the deal 🙂
BUT what if you and your grandma fall in love witha dress and she wants you to get it right then and there? Will that be awkard for you and your grandma?
Post # 6
Go for it. When my family gathered with his across the country to celebrate the engagement, my mom and his mom went to a bridal salon with me. Now mind you, I live a couple of blocks away from one of the best bridal salons in the SE and had already pretty much picked out my gown. But it was still fun to try on dresses and it was an experience- I ended up deliberately picking dresses that I would never wear, but you can make the experience more “educational”. 🙂
Post # 7
I don’t think there is anything wrong with it at all! Just be open minded about it – you might actually find *the* dress – you never know 🙂
Post # 8
PS can’t you get the sales tax taken off when you buy it? I see people do this regularly where I live (lots of foreigners), but wasn’t sure if it applied to Canada to US.
Post # 9
Well, I’m in the minority.
I think its rude. You are taking up a time slot that could be given to someone who actually has intentions of buying a dress. You are essentially making sure that sales person does not have a sale. When it comes to that you are hurting her sales quota. That hurts the businesses bottom line. You could be the that last quota she needs to not loose her job. Especially in this economy.
Post # 10
@ScottishMrs: Where did you try on dresses? I found a salon near my grandparents called Mia Bridal.
@lovelyduckie: At 84, she’s pretty laid-back about stuff. I doubt she’d pressure me into buying a dress right then and there, and as I mentioned, I’d only go to a place that carries designers I can find locally.
@atlbride2013: That’s kind of what I’m thinking. Try on a bunch of different types, just to get a feel for what I want and like. I’ve never tried them on before, so I don’t know what would look good on me. Plus, I’ve heard from so many of the ladies here that they went to a salon with one style in mind, and ended up getting something totally different.
In the end, this is about me sharing part of the wedding with my mom and Grandma. She’s a pretty cool lady, so I’m glad it seems, in general, ok to proceed as planned.
Post # 11
I think it’s fine to go to a shop to get ideas of what you’d like before you’re ready to buy. ENjoy this experience with your grandmother!
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
@BlondeBee: I actually went and tried on dresses in Moose Creek (a small town not to far out of the city) at Alliance (French name). A lot of people from the city go to find their dresses there because their service is so good and they have a good selection. It’s also a nice little day trip. They had my dream dress there, but I didn’t try it on there, I tried it somewhere else and ended up buying it there (for $700 for a princess ballgown!).
If you don’t want to leave the city though, I can ask some of my friends where they tried on dresses in the city.
Post # 13
@HelleCat: Plenty of people go look at dresses without buying them – to see what looks good, to get a feel for what they like, etc. It’s a big purchase, you want to “shop around” and explore your options. Plus, OP could walk in and try on her dream gown and end up buying it, she won’t know until she looks. Plus, sharing the experience with her grandma is awesome. I think if a bridal salon or salesperson’s future depends on one sale, there’s other issues they need to be tackling.
Post # 14
@atlbride2013: Very true – I have no problem buying a dress if I fell in love with it. If it wasn’t something I could find here in Pittsburgh, I’d be ready to buy. My parents live much closer to Ottawa, and could pick it up when it comes in. I never ruled out buying if I found “the one,” I just think the chances of me finding a dress on the first shot is highly unlikely. I am a thorough shopper, and don’t make big decisions quickly.
@HelleCat: I definitely understand your point of view. But plenty of brides don’t find a dress on the first go-round. I wouldn’t rule out buying one, though. I apologize if my first post made it sound that way. I guess I should have explained that while I HIGHLY doubt I would buy on my first trip (hence me having no intention) there’s a possibility (albeit small) that I would.
Post # 15
I think this is totally fine. I did this with my grandma and actually ended up finding the dress, but waited until i could try it on with my parents.
I went many times to try on dresses by myself, or with one other person who wasn’t my mom with no intention of buying. I just wanted to rule out dresses I like and styles. I think you should feel no pressure to pretend like you are there to buy a gown.
Post # 16
Nothing wrong with it. I would just tell them to begin with that you aren’t yet sure what style or anything you want in a dress yet and would like to try them on to get an idea.Maybe leave out the part where you won’t be buying your dress in Canada though.
I did that at a few places and not one consultant had any issues with it. They seemed to actually really have fun with it. I had one girl that really tried to bring me out everything they had samples of in my size or close enough that i could actually try it on.
A good consultant will help, because they know that if they treat you well and offer you good service then you will remember it and either buy your dress there later on or recommend the store to friends anf family. Bad service loses the business potential customers.