Post # 1
I have ideas of what type of a ring i want but I really want to go try them on. I have heard that many times they look way different on your finger and sometimes you realize you want something totally different. I went into a jewelry store one time and tried them on, but the whole time I was nervous that my Boyfriend or Best Friend would be at the mall and happen to see me in there and think I was being pushy. I wouldn’t mind going with him, but I also want the ring/proposal to be a surprise. I just want to see what the rings look like on my hand. Has anyone “secretly” tried on rings before?
We have talked some about rings, a lot about marriage, but he has never asked me to go to a store with him and try them on. We have talked a LOT lately about marriage and it is to the point where I am afraid I will really start annoying him if I bring it up again, so I don’t want to bring this up to him first.
Post # 3
I use to work at a jewlery store…. you bet I tried them on! lol
Post # 4
We went together a few times. And yes the ring I was inlove with online i HATED!!! I also went with friends a few times but he knew where i was going he just didnt want to shop anymore
Post # 5
I forgot to ask, do you think I should go to other stores and try on a few more? or should I just wait and be surprised? and will the jewelers there think it is weird for me to come in alone? Like will they think that I am not serious if I come in without a guy?
Post # 6
@yellowlinedpage: check out cheap CZ versions of what you want on Amazon and Overstock! I just ordered the ring I’m pretty sure I want. I tried on what I thought I wanted four years ago at a store and hated it. That said, it took me some time to change my mind to figure out what I actually wanted. Personally I think it takes longer than a few minutes to decide….I want to be able to wear it around for a few days to see how it feels in every day life. You know, when I’m making dinner or driving to work or making the bed. Does it get stuck on stuff? Do I feel like I’m going to break it? How comfortable is that pave band after three days? In my case my SO has always known exactly what I wanted and I told him, “I’m ordering a stand-in just to make sure it’s right. Then you can take the reigns.” The good news is since we’re having a destination wedding I’ll have an excellent faux ring for international travel and such. Unless you want a really, really unique ring, you should be able to find a stand-in to try out in the privacy of your own home for just a little bit of money.
Post # 7
I tried rings on by myself. He was asking what my style was and what I wanted.
You are right I tried on rings I thought I would like and didn’t care for them once I tried them on.
Didn’t think I liked the split shanks but that’s the style I fell in love with.
Post # 8
@artichokey: OMG. I am in love with this idea! There is really only one ring that I want (halo with pave band) and SO knows this. But, I’ve never tried it on. Maybe I’ll go to amazon right now.
Thanks for the tip!!
Post # 9
I don’t think jewelers will take you any less seriously. When my sister was about to get engaged, she asked me to come with her to try on rings so she could figure out what she liked. BIL didn’t come with us, and no one treated her/us rudely because there was no man around. It’s probably becoming a lot more common these days as picking out the ring together seems to be more common.
Post # 10
I went to a jewelry store by myself once. I had been gawking at a ring online and when I saw in person it looked so bad on my hand. They did give me a pamplet and business card so I gave it to the bf :P. They were pretty friendly, and did take me seriously though. I went to a different store with my bf and they treated us like we were little kids(we’re 24/26!)..so I guess it all depends on where ya go.
Post # 11
Ooh artichokey! I like the idea of a CZ stand in off of amazon.com! hmmm I think I might just go look now!
We went ring shopping last weekend. For year I have been obsessing over halo rings, but once they were on my finger I really couldn’t stand them! It was crazy and I’m glad I looked. After all, if he had proposed with the ring that I ended up loving, I would have been disappointed it wasn’t a halo. Funny how that works!
Post # 12
@MissBuffalo: Hee, I’m a self-proclaimed genius! I just think that if I’m going to wear something for the rest of my life I deserve a test drive longer than a few minutes! I figure if I can spend under $100 for a fake of ‘the one’ and it means I get to try it out, can wear it and stare at it until he buys the real one, and have a stunning stand-in, I’ve got my money’s worth! Most of them are not $100 but I’m just saying, totally worth the small investment.
Post # 13
i went to several stores by myself, right when we talked about getting engaged soon. i had NO IDEA what i wanted, so i wanted to get an idea of what i liked.
i told my fiance that i had stopped in at a few jewelers and got a better idea of what i liked, and to let me know if he wanted me to write it down for him. he asked ALL SORTS OF QUESTIONS about what i found and what i liked and where i went. about 2 weeks after this, he “surprised” me and took me to two of the places i had already gone and told me to pick out exactly what ring i wanted (it was really romantic actually!). we ended up specifically asking to work with the jeweler who had sat down for an HOUR with me and told me all about diamonds. this guy didn’t seemed surprised at all that i had orignally come in by myself, and because he was great while showing me rings, HE got our huge purchase.
Post # 14
I went to several stores with my mom, and they didn’t think I was crazy (at least I didn’t think so…lol).
Just like wedding dresses, things look a lot different once you try them on. Definitely go try some on to get a feel for it.
Post # 15
@LemonLolly: That’s what I’m so afraid of… I’m in love with a particular ring online, and I’m worried it will look bad actually ON my finger. Or I’d hate it. But then at the same time, I know thinner bands look better on my fingers as opposed to thicker ones.
Now you guys got me thinking haha. Maybe I should hit up a store at some point and try to find a ring similar to try on! 🙂
I’d prefer to go WITH my guy obviously, but we’ve never talked about actually physically going into a store to try rings on. He’s just asked I email him the ones I like, so he has them.
Hmph. And there’s totally no way to just slyly throw that out there to him, so I’ll probably just go by myself.
Post # 16
I went to the mall and tried on rings by myself before. Given, my SO and I had already started looking together, so I wasn’t worried about being “caught” by him or something. However, it did feel weird going by myself lol!
I would suggest you go… chances are you won’t be at the mall at the same time and even if he is, he probably wouldn’t see you inside the store. If you’re really paranoid, you could try going to a mall you don’t normally go to?