(Closed) Trying on the ring while SO is not home. Your thoughts?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I found the box, but I made sure not to open it or try it on before he proposed. I helped design it, but I had only seen the CAD, and wanted to wait to see the ring in person until he actually proposed. Fortunately he only held on to it for about a week, so I didn’t have too much torture! lol

I do, however, sneak wearing my wedding band. But we bought those together, and Fiance knows that I’ve done it. It’s all locked up now, so I’ll stop wearing it. I want to try and keep it special for the wedding!

Post # 18
653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I wouldn’t do it. My proposal took me by surprise, but if I had found the ring, I would have put it right away. 

Post # 19
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

i woulnd’t do that….we went to the store together and picked out the setting together. He went back later and picked out the diamond and got it set. I knew it would be a princess cut. So i knew basically exactly what it was going to look like…but even still i didnt want to actually “see” it until the proposal. I knew exactly where he kept it when he was hiding it (he kept teasing me with it), but i refused to look at it or anything because even though i knew what it was gonna look like, i hadn’t actually seen “The Ring” and i wanted the first time to be at the proposal. I wanted that to be a really special moment.

Kinda like the thread about calling him your husband before you get married….it takes away from the honor of it actually being real. i wanted it to be special the first time i put on “my” ring.

Post # 20
1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t think I would have opened the box bc my ring was a surprise, but probably if I picked it. I secretly try on my wedding band.

Post # 21
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think that’s really sad.  I think it’s weird when people snoop and find the ring. And then it’s crazy to wear it around the house like a crazy person.

Post # 22
577 posts
Busy bee

My SO knows better than to hide anything for me in our house. I’m a total cat burglar when I want to find something.

The first time I was engaged I tried rings on while we were shopping. Made sense to me, to see how it looked on my hand. 

This time around I have zero clue what it looks like and yes it terrifies me, lol. If I found it though, I don’t think I’d try it on. Since I know it would be mine it would be pointless, can’t return an heirloom. 

Post # 23
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2019 - City, State

I’ve seen too many sitcoms. I’d be worried it would get stuck or that I’d accidentally flush it down a drain and then have to explain.

Post # 24
766 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@SmileyKitty:  My Fiance put my ring in the ornate bag from the jewelry store on top of his refrigerator at his old apartment. I had a key and he knew I visited it when he wasn’t home!

Post # 25
680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@SmileyKitty:  I do not think its cool that she tried it on. If I got my SO something that meant as much as an engagement ring AND I hid the gift to make sure that he didnt see it, I would be devastated if he saw it before I could give it to him. I would want to see the lool on his face when he saw it for the first time. But…its her ring and she wanted to do what she did. I wouldnt call her desperate,  like another poster said, she is excited. I just think it takes away from all of the hard work that her SO put into the ring and the proposal that he is currently planning. 

Post # 26
173 posts
Blushing bee

I ruined sooooo many Christmases as a kid, my mom resorted to putting homegoods in the “presents” hiding place. If I got caught snooping or she knew I peeked, I got whatever I found! One year I got an electric blanket, another I got a lovely set of…. bath towels.

My SO made the mistake of telling me the stone was hidden in the house THEN showing me the hiding place!!! He is getting the final setting soon and I’ve promised myself no more looking at it until he proposes.

Post # 27
643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@SmileyKitty:  I was guilty of it! BUT–as soon as my Fiance got home from buying it he brought it in our room (while I was in the room) and wanted to see if it fit. I was like is he serious?! LOL. So I closed my eyes and stuck out my hand and if fit perfectly. Then he’s all, do you want to see it? I said no twice and then was like “ok yes!” lol so I got to peek at it. Then he put it in the closet. Not even really hidden! So yeah, a few times I took it out and looked at it and tried it on but then I stopped doing that cause I was just torturing myself and wanted it to be special when I did get to finally put it on for good. NOTHING could take away from the moment when the love of your life gets down on one knee though, and the fact that HE slipped the ring on my finger made it like “OMG” so having already seen it/tried it on didn’t ruin anything!!

Post # 28
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We just dropped off an antique/heirloom ring to have it made into my engagement ring, he will have it in mid-March. I don’t plan to go looking for it, and if I find it, definitely not trying it on — bad juju. 😉

Plus I think that would take something away from his moment, you know?

Post # 29
1310 posts
Bumble bee

I think it’s totally something I would do. 😛  People are excited – it’s ok!

Having said that, I told SO to propose without a ring so I can choose my own, so this probably wouldn’t happen with us.  (I wouldn’t choose a ring together before he proposes because at that point, it feels like…the proposal was just a formality, and you’ve already agreed, so he’s not really asking anything.)

Post # 30
3875 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

A suspicious, ring-sized package arrived to my house last week and I’ve been desperate to get my hands on it so I can try it on. I even promised myself that if I found it I would keep my eyes closed, but at least try it on to make sure it fit. Sadly, it’s no longer in the house anymore. I’m too much of a control freak to just go with the flow and have been having panicked nightmares where the ring doesn’t fit and what if he proposes in front of a thousand people and the ring doesn’t fit!? 

If you don’t mind ruining the surprise for yourself, then I’d say it’s fine to try it on. My SO would be devestated, though, so I would make sure I NEVER got caught!

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