Post # 31
Toddlers and young children need to be lifted. Take the child to the park, lift onto the swings, climb up obstacles etc. Bring your child swimming you will hold them often. Take a walk down the street and they get tired. In and out of car seats. They climb the counter, there are so so many instances where you will need to pick the child up. Just because they can walk doesn’t mean they will or for long. And a toddler will not understand you incapacity.
Post # 32
All kinds of assistive technology exists to help parents with disabilities deal with the lifting issue. I remember looking into this years ago as I investigated adoption. Can’t remember all the details but I do recall a couple of things: a cart on wheels to move baby around house and cribs with a side that folds down. Wish I could remember the name of the website I found back then. Search for “parents with disabilities” and “assistive technology. “
Post # 33
Dear OP, I really don’t think this is a good place for you to be asking such serious questions. You really have to address them to adoption agencies and the like.
Many pp’s here are answering in all good faith to the fairly simple lifting/weight issue when in fact amongst your many, many posts some show that you have serious partner problems and adoption would present a very complex situation without even considering the scoliosis issues.
j_jaye : has some good advice I think.
Post # 34
You have a significant other who refuses to spend time with you and has to be actually “trained” into living under the same roof with you. Even now, while it’s just the two of you and no children, he has to have his “me time”.
If you’re serious about adoption, please be honest with yourself and whatever adoption agency you choose to work with – you’ll be raising your child entirely on your own, as a single parent.