Post # 1
Hi fellow bees!
I’ve been a longtime reader, but finally decided to post to get some advice/sanity checks!
I’m not the type of bride to be that thinks a dress makes or breaks a wedding…more like I had a list of things that I wanted in a dress and when one checked all the boxes, I purchased it! So now I have a dress that has lace, is strapless, is light since the wedding will be outdoors in Florida, and is comfortable.
The dress was a sample and it fit (mostly…I’m a bit lacking in the top area…) and my mom and a bridesmaid who were with me really liked it, so I just decided to buy it.
Now, 2 months later…I’m wondering if I’m coming down with a case of dress regret?!? Please help?!? I originally really really wanted the Maggie Sottero Presca Marie, but it was just too heavy and hot for our outdoor wedding. Here is that dress:
So here is the dress! It does not come with a sash/flower, but I’m kinda obsessed with them. I added a sash for this picture (This was the only color they had in the store…I personally think I’d like a white/ivory flower) but dont know if the flower/sash even goes?? And is the neck too ‘sweethearty’…I was originally looking for something a little more straight across since I thought that would be more flattering?!?
And here is the dress without the sash …. as the dress comes. Tell me I’m being paranoid, but does the top look wierd since I am not able to fill it out?!? And the one thing that gets me…you can see a seam underneath towards the bottom of the dress. Can an alteration place fix that since I have to get it hemmed anyway?
Oh….what to do? What to do? Thanks in advance 🙂
Post # 3
The dresses look very similar aside from the top and a little bit of the bottom – but to be honest I like yours better. I think what is throwing you off is the sash. Both sashes are beautiful, so maybe that is what you’re looking at first? Maybe you like the idea of a sash with a thicker band? Sashes change up a dress so much, so maybe you could try on other ones with your dress?
I also like the top of your dress better and I always think sweetheart necklines look beautiful. Also, alterations would be able to take care of the bottom that you are worried about. Don’t stress, there are so many pretty dresses out there but you picked yours for a reason! 🙂
Post # 4
Your dress is beuatiful and looks fabulous on you! I love it with the sash and flower. Alterations will fix the top so it fits perfectly and I’m sure they can fix the seam thing too (although if you hadn’t pointed it out I woudl not have noticed it at all).
Post # 5
I think the dress looks great on you!!!!
I had a slight case of dress regret. I got a Maggie and it took the normal 6 months to come in. A few weeks ago I had a total breakdown because I forgot what it looked like in person and thought that the color in the picture looked pinkish brown, it was too poofy, etc. etc.
Ultimately when my dress came in and I went to try it on…I took my 3 most supportive bridesmaids and I felt MUCH better!
The things that you are unsure or with the dress…once you get alterations done so that the dress fits YOU like a glove, you will be happy with it! I need to get alterations done to the hem and the neckline as well. plus if you get the right bra to put under the dress you might “fill out” that dress better than you think! 🙂
You’ll look wonderful!
Post # 6
@floridajenn: Sooo I LOVE this dress on you!! If you want to change a few minor things with the way it fits, I would find a great tailor near you. Also, if you’re worried about not filling it out “up top” you can try some “chicken cutlets” – I got mine from Victoria’s Secret. And the sweetheart neckline looks great on you. Lastly, I love it with the sash (I love it without too) so if you want to add one, go for it! It’s your dress and your wedding 🙂 I bet you can find a ton of sashes that would work online.
So basically, remain calm – you look great! And any concerns you have can easily be adjusted 🙂
Post # 7
I don’t see any of the things you’re worried about. I think the deeper sweetheart is stunning! And if you’re worried about filling it out – that’ll be taken care of when you get it altered (or just get a padded bra! I think it looks great with and without the sash. it looks STUNNING on you!
Post # 8
Your dress is beautiful! Don’t have dress regret at all! It is the perfect mix of lace but light and flowy for a beach wedding.
I like your ideas for a sash. A wider sash would look good like the one on the Maggie. Also, don’t worry about filling out the top. Your seamstress could sew in cups or u could add gel thingies.
It really does look beautuful on you.
Post # 9
your dress is beautiful on you! i LOVE LOVE LOVE the sash, its a great add and would look lovely in ivory. The sweetheart neckline is perfect and once it is fitted correctly you will fill it out perfectly. don’t worry hun you picked a great dress!
Post # 10
I love it!!! And the sash!! You look gorgeous 🙂
Post # 11
Your dress is gorgeous~and you look stunning in it! It has such a romantic look! I think it’s even prettier with the sash.
Post # 12
You look great! Don’t regret!! Although I don’t think the “bust issue” is visible, the sash definately helps in camoflaging it!
Post # 13
I love it WITH the sash! Wouldn’t change anything!
Post # 14
Your dress looks fantastic on you! The sweetheart neckline is flattering and if the bust issue is really bothering you it’s nothing a great bra won’t fix 😉 If you really have your heart set on a sash Etsy has some fantastic ones. Like PP alterations will help it fit like a glove. The dress really looks fab on you and for an outdoor wedding it pays to be comfortable!
Post # 15
Thanks to everyone for all the kind comments and tips/suggestions! I guess I just had parts of different dresses stuck in my head and when I found this one (the one I purchased), it checked most of the boxes and now I just focus on the parts of the other dresses that it doesnt have. Crazy, I know! Most people won’t ever notice my ‘nitpickings’!
In the end though, I think it’ll be fine. Its just hard purchasing a dress and then not being able to see it again or try it on again for months! No wonder so many people start second guessing themselves!!!
BUT to all the ladies to who mentioned comfort…I think that will be key for me 🙂 This dress is light, I can sit in it, and I’ll be able to eat in it and dance too! And everything else, I hope alterations can fix like you ladies said.
Now…any suggestions on what to look for when it comes to a good alteration place? I’ve looked on Angies List for reviews and on Yelp, but sadly I live somewhere where most people don’t post reviews 🙁
Post # 16
You look beautiful in your dress! Once you get through alterations, it’s going to be perfect! I also agree with making a thicker sash. As for finding a good alterations place, what about asking around on the boards here?