- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
Ok let me start off with some backround saying this is my best friend since fifth grade and we have made it through a ton a downs in our relationship mostly her moving every couple of years and having a hard time staying in touch, I love her like a sister and want nothing but her happiness. She lives in CA and I live in CO and for the last year she has a dated a guy I have never met, they have had a lot of really great moments and a lot of really really bad moments. This last really really bad moment was a few days ago and he ran back to his ex wife who he has a son with and then back to BF. BF took him back and they are trying to move forward with their relationship. Now for my problem, he is in the military and is getting re-assigned in january, possibly to Japan, in order for her to go with him they need to be married. They haven’t decided on getting married yet but it is a more likely then not and she has said that if they do, she wants me there as her MOH. I really don’t agree her getting married to him in less then 6 months but I am her bestfriend and want to be supportive of her and I can’t imagine missing her wedding. So I’ve decided that I want to be there BUT my checking account does not like the idea at all. I know she hasn’t decided to marry him for sure but I need to start thinking about how I can pay for all this. I just don’t know how to tell her I may not be able to go to her maybe wedding. What would you all do? Be upfront right away or try to figure it out on my own? The only thing that is really stopping me from talking to her about it is the fact that it isn’t even set in stone yet. And I’m affraid if I tell her I might not be able to make it she will take it as I am aggainst her getting married. Which I kind of am against it but I’ve gotten over that and will support her.