- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I’m relatively new to Wedding Bee and had posted an intro and story last week but in the wrong section. So here’s the scoop…My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been together about a year and a half and just moved in together. Even before we moved in together, we talked about getting married. My father is extremely traditional and very religious so the moving in together didn’t go over great with him. I broke the news to him and my dad asked that my Boyfriend or Best Friend talked to him at some point about marriage and the likes. My Boyfriend or Best Friend decided to have the talk back in February and ended up asking to marry me.
Then he suggested that we go ring looking soon. I was thrilled of course but I felt like I had to drag him to the store. Afterwards he said he was glad we went and it wasn’t the thought of marriage, he said he had known for a while that I was the one, but spending a chunk of change when money was already tight. I had tried to tell him I didn’t need a $4,000 ring and the one I liked the most was half that price.
I don’t know much about his timeline for proposing, which I suppose is good in a way, but in another way, it’s torture. His “soon” and my “soon” don’t always match up. He asked me to be patient but he had a timeframe in mind and a semi-plan. I’m trying my hardest to honor that request and not push him too far, but it’s tough. My little brother and his girlfriend are looking at getting engaged this summer and married next. I know it’s silly but I feel a little sad since two of my younger siblings are going to be married before I am. My Boyfriend or Best Friend doesn’t understand why I feel this way and why I would be frustrated. I’m so ready to move on with the next phase of my life and I’m not sure he feels the same way. I don’t want to push him anymore, but I need something to help with the frustration! Do I talk to him or try to find other ways to quell my frustration? I also don’t want to come off as jealous or anything to my brother’s Girlfriend. I like her, we have a lot in common and are pretty good friends. Should I explain my frustration to her or should I just swallow those emotions?
I got excited last week because my Boyfriend or Best Friend asked if I wanted to hike another 14er this summer and when I said of course, he already had a date picked out, 4 months from now. This is coming from the man who can’t plan more than a couple days advance because it’s too far away. Even last year when we hiked Longs Peak, we didn’t decide on a date until July. I may have jumped to the wrong conclusion and I don’t want to be expecting it and then be disappointed when it doesn’t happen. Any advice on letting go of trying to figure out when it’s going to happen? Thanks ladies!