Trying to conceive after miscarriage in my thirties

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’m so sorry for what you’re experiencing. It sucks so much, even knowing there are lots of others with similar experiences. I’m 34 and had my first miscarriage in April at 7 weeks. We are still ttc again. My husband and I found a therapist who specializes in miscarriage and fertility trouble, and that’s really helping to alleviate the sadness. Hang in there and try and stay positive through this tough time. 

Post # 17
757 posts
Busy bee


Firstly, I am very sorry to hear of your impeding loss. It must be so difficult what you are going through.

I had the same fears as you. I ended up having a baby (au naturel) at 33. I can’t say exactly when I started to TTC because long before even doing the actual act, I started charting over a year ahead, ate well and had ACV to make the body ‘baby friendly’. (Actually all it does is eradicate toxins).

Post # 18
1120 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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nadia88 :  bee, I’m so, so sorry you’re going through this. My miscarriages were the most difficult thing I’ve ever gone through and they changed who I am as a person and how I see life. But there is a light at the end of the tunnel. For me, I started TTC at age 37 for various reasons. I loved my life pre-TTC and have no regrets about waiting. But unfortunately, it did take some time to conceive after going off BC. After 8 months trying, my husband and I were ready to see a doctor to get some testing done. Then, that month, we fell pregnant! We were so excited. Unfortunately we found out we lost that baby at an U/S at 10 weeks along. I was devastated, but hopeful that my body was finally back in gear and I’d get pregnant quickly again. Well, that didn’t happen, and 8 months later we started medical intervention. My furst IUI was successful, but ended in MC at 6 weeks. That time, I was just angry. Why was this happening to me? I was 39 and starting to wonder if I had any good eggs left. My RE recommended IVF with PGS testing to ensure we were transferring a ‘good’ embryo, due to my age and history. We did end up with four precious embryos, and the first transfer worked. I’m now 25 weeks prrgnant with my rainbow baby.

All this to say, my story was more difficult than some, less difficult than others. But at 39 I was able to finally get pregnant, with help. At 31, you still have SO much time. And if a few more months do go by with no luck, don’t be afraid to seek medical help. It’s daunting at first but it’s all worth it when you finally do get your take home baby. 5 months and a MC, while so painful when you’re in the thick of it, is actually a very good sign that you’ll be able to get pregnant with a healthy baby in time. I wish you the best of luck! And in the meantime, take care of yourself!

Post # 19
14093 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m 31.  TTC for 14 months now.  I had a miscarriage in May after my first positive pregnancy test.  I miscarried at 7 weeks.  We are currently still trying and hoping for another BFP soon. 

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