Post # 1
So I’ve decided I just want to scrap all our plans and elope just my Baby and me 😉 Unfortunately he needs more convincing. Both sets of parents eloped themselves and so they think its a good idea but my Fiance wants there to be people there anyway. Personally, I love my Fiance and would love a nice peaceful day of just me and him getting married without the stress of worrying about other people. I’m thinking just a destination wedding with only 10 guests but even THAT seems like too many people involved to me. We just cant find a happy medium :
Post # 3
We had this issue too, I wanted to just elope and he wanted a big huge wedding. We ended up at a local venue (45 min. away) and invited 30 people to the ceremony and had 90 for the reception. I felt like it was a good compromise.
What about eloping and then having a bigger reception later?
Post # 4
10 people sounds like a happy medium to me…what would you consider to be a happy medium between no one and a few people?
It’s a once in a lifetime moment and you can’t “redo” it if you or he has regrets about people not being there. What about a compromise of just immediate family?
Post # 5
Would he be on board with the 10 guests affair? It does seem like a happy medium – I know you said it seems like to many to you, but if you have to choose between that and the traditional wedding he wants, it is a happy medium!
Draw up a list with him of “must have guests”. Then, go over the costs of Destination Wedding vs traditional; go over the time involved in planning a Destination Wedding vs traditional. All with him. There is so much work involved in a wedding, insist that he must do it all with you. It might convince him!
Post # 6
yeah the 10 people in question would be My mom and dad, my brother and a guest of his choice, his mom and dad, his two brothers, and we each choose a friend. It’s not alot of people and we will probably go with this choice but I just really did not want to handle guests. : I just picture a lovely day alone with my Fiance and my heart swoons.. but when I factor in our family and all their drama it just ruins the vision for me.
I understand where he is coming from though and I don’t want him to be unhappy either
Post # 7
Destination weddings aren’t necessarily less stressful. You have to deal with who you pick as the select few to come the wedding, you might have to consider helping them pay for their trip, you could deal with a bad coordinator that doesnt communicate well with you, and you could have people you REALLY want there be unable to come. With that said, I do think its a great idea. Im getting married in Kauai! I think in some ways, its easier to plan, but in some ways (like the ones above) its difficult. The pros would be having a more intimate wedding in a unique location, possibly having a set wedding package with everything you need included, you wont have hundreds of guests that you dont really know, and you can have your honeymoon wherever you have your wedding!